Lol! - I have never once promised to do something with someone when this is over. But then, precovid I would often say simply “I’m sorry, I can’t.” My favorite was when my friend had a pasta making party. She was telling me about it before it happened, and (knowing I wanted to learn to make pasta) she said “ I didn’t invite you so you didn’t have to say no but of course you could come.” and I said “I’d like to, but...” and she said “people.” And I said “yeah.”
well, to cheer up my Dd I told her we would have a big family party for grandson’s first birthday, and I am still in for that if we can, but that is different.
and I promised my kids we would get together for Christmas. But I love that. They don’t expect me to be anyone other than who I am and I love seeing them together.
but really, it isn’t a digression, because covid is part of what is making this work for me, and I am definitely dreading “normal” one of my biggest challenges will be figuring out how to avoid “normal”. Because “normal” sucked. I was stressed and exhausted and frustrated and unhappy.