I don't mind crunchy granola really, I like counter-cultural. And hippies seeking status is an oxymoron. It's people trying to climb the corporate ladder or buy a fancy car or look a certain way that seek status, ie way more mainstream people. And anyone who thinks hippies have ever been mainstream anytime after the 60s (and I was born well after that), yea give me a break. Maybe counter-cultural types seek belonging and I suppose any belonging has elements of status seeking, but shrug the suburban homeowners might seek to have the nicest garden on the block. Human beings do human things. The truth is the ONLY people that I feel "this is my tribe" with have been counter-cultural.
But the honest truth is I go through periods of depression and desire for hermitage where I really really don't want to see others. But if I'm doing better, I do. I suppose being a loner hermit is counter-cultural too, but I really don't care what it is, I honestly get sick of humanity sometimes. But yea when young I fantasized like crazy about joining a commune.
I initially though this was a thread about why couples don't live together and well yea now that would indeed be a fight about things being messy etc..