I am not disagreeing, but...
I think there's a point at which SOME people (saints, mystics and other highly evolved people) can overcome the fear of control. Victor Frankl famously said "The last of the human freedoms: to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way."
Admittedly, there aren't many people who can achieve that, but the stories of those that can, and have, gives hope to the rest of us.