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    Senior Member Tradd's Avatar
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    My mother died.

    Just got a voice mail from my brotherís wife that my mother died. I have been estranged from my parents for many years. I last saw them in 2002 and they lived in the Detroit area. My father was an alcoholic for many years and only got dry after I left for college through AA, though he was what they called a dry drunk. Still had the behavior patterns from when he was drinking. Both parents were very, very critical of me. Nothing I did was good enough. Lot of verbal abuse. Relations with them were always very toxic. I exchanged holiday cards and emails for a while, but I was sick of the continuing BS and blocked their phone numbers and emails probably 8 years ago. I wonít be going to the funeral. I always said I would not go to their funerals and I will keep to that. Iíve made my own family with friends. Iím not sad. Just a sense of relief I wonít have to deal with my mother ever again. Iím deleting the voice mail from my brotherís wife. Iíll be going diving this weekend as planned.

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    Tradd, It sounds like you are on an even keel about this. I wish you well.

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    I'm sorry you had so much sadness.

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    It’s sad that you had such a awful childhood.

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    It sounds like you somehow developed resilience in spite of it all.

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    I'm so sorry you never got the mother you deserved.
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    Thank you, all!

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    What a shock; glad you are feeling strong, and prayers for your continued healing.

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    I'm sorry for you Tradd. I wish every child was cherished.

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    I'm sorry, Tradd.

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