Originally Posted by
herbgeek
We haven't gotten to that point yet, but mom will need to have the battery in her pacemaker replaced in the nearish future. My sister and I are of conflicted minds on that. Mom has little quality of life now, despite our best efforts. She has repeatedly said she wants to/is ready to die and be with my father. Do we artificially keep her alive? She would have died about 8 years ago without the pacemaker- she was weak and frequently fainting. Replacing the battery sounds like the "right" thing, but is it really? She has lost so much memory, and she just cries a lot because my dad isn't there to make the world make sense for her.
I'm wondering if maybe this is where your guardian might be at. She sound annoying as hell, but maybe she doesn't want to prolong a life of someone who isn't enjoying it? Does your Mom have a DNR with the facility?
From my understanding, one needs to have 6 months or less projected to live before entering hospice. Does she have a terminal condition in addition to the dementia?