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    Declining a Thanksgiving invitation

    Something about holiday expectations leaves me on edge every year. We had planned to have a quiet meal at home complete with sides and homemade pie. Out of the blue, my SIL calls and invites us to their house which is wonderful except...they live six hours away on the other side of the mountain. That means a six hour drive over two mountain passes and six hours back - all in holiday traffic. Packing up food, getting the car ready, calling the petsitter, etc. I said we would strongly consider it depending on the weather and need to confirm ASAP. But now I feel guilty if we decline even though I think that's the best thing to do. What to do...??

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    Decline it politely, and enjoy your holiday.

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    Definitely decline with no regrets.
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    Just say no.

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    There comes a time when common sense takes over. Six hours or more of driving there plus return six hours and total stress involved just is not wise. Thank them for their thoughtful invite but decline.
    As Cicero said, “Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all the others.”

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    In my mind I would be thinking - ah that would be a big hell no. But a gracious thank you, but no thank you would suffice.

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    OK, thanks! I feel better now and a great sense of relief. I am just too sensitive about these sorts of things.

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    Thank her for the invitation and honestly tell her that you already had a quiet day planned which you really need and are looking forward to.

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    As others have said I would politely decline. Or as Nancy Reagan always said ‘just say no.’

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    The way I see it, if it's about seeing people and *if* you want to see those people, it can always be another day, doesn't have to be thanksgiving.
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