Say thanks but no and don't give a reason why. But maybe suggest a non-holiday get together at a halfway point for both of you. Maybe a restaurant three hours away or a hotel where you can dine and stay overnight if you have to (pets permitted, of course).
I don't miss all the driving I used to do on holidays. At this point, I wouldn't travel for an audience with the Pope.
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Indeed. Everyone’s idea of how holidays and birthdays should be spent or celebrated is different. SO strongly wants to be with family. Last year we spent both thanksgiving and Christmas home, just the two of us, and he was miserable. This year we’re going to San Diego for thanksgiving with my sister and Christmas in at Louis with his family like we have done for several years prior to last year. I’m typing this at sfo and now I’m miserable. Haha. But seriously, I like my sister and her wife and will enjoy tomorrow but I hate traveling on the busiest travel weekend of the year. At least it’s a short flight and the weather is good.
If you have Skype or Zoom or the equivalent, you can do that if you need to be face to face. Driving in winter weather would be a hard no for me, seeing that I've been there and done that. Ask me about that ice storm in Portland... One of the advantages of old age is being able to "just say no."
Back in the years when DH had parents living in Northern
iowa,He liked going for one of the winter holidays. After a few years of dodging snow storms on icy roads I noped out of that.
Sometimes in those early years I wanted to alternate which holiday he was home for. Other years I didn’t care. And then, as his parents became very very old, I thought it was fine he go up to Snowy Coldland if that’s what he wanted to do.
When I was working I much preferred to work holiday season days so that people in my department who want it off could take off. I preferred to take vacation time in the spring and early summer.
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