Last Friday was my mom's 87th birthday. Our usual custom is to go to a nice restaurant, but we had decided against that due to the current Covid surge. We talked about preparing a meal at her house or doing some high quality takeout, but then there was also a big snowstorm on Friday. We ended up having pizza and a Market Basket chocolate cake (and of course I brought wine). There were 5 of us: Mom, Sis, Friend/caregiver, DH & me, and a good time was had by all. Mom's wish when she blew out the candles* was that she would be around to celebrate another birthday next year with the people she loved! This was from a woman who says on a daily basis that she wishes she could take a pill to disappear, wishes she had a gun, hopes she won't wake up tomorrow, wishes she was dead, etc. I actually think those are sensible desires given her Alzheimer's Disease and I'm sure those desires will continue, but her birthday wish does tell me that we succeeded enormously in giving her a Happy Birthday and she was experiencing true joy in the moment! Simple, frugal and successful celebration for the win!
*We did discuss the blowing of the candles during Covid, and decided that if anyone was going to be bringing Covid into that little gathering, Mom was the least likely vector.
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