DH's brother and his wife are back in full opportunistic mode. I have mentioned them before on this forum and the old version.
DH has an Uncle on his mom's side who never got married, never had a girlfriend. There is only Uncle B and another Uncle left on that side of the family. DH is Uncle B's POA. medical POA and executor of his estate. UB lived an extremely frugal life and has a few million dollars. He is currently living in an assisted living place. He bought a 2019 Ford SUV (paid cash) that he cannot drive. It stays at our house and DH uses it to take UB to town, Dr appointments etc. He bought because it's very easy for him to get in and out of. It only has 2K (yes 2000) miles on it. The last six months, UB has shown some cognitive issues and memory loss. Some days are better than others. DH brother (R) and his wife (Ra) went to visit UB over Christmas and supposably UB told them that their oldest daughter could have this SUV. R called DH and told him this. in a voice mail and wanted to come pick up the SUV. DH went to see UB and asked him about it and he had no recollection of telling R and Ra that they could have it.
Now UB has money set aside with the amounts of who gets what in his will. Its all very very generous. DH has not called and talked to R and Ra that 1) UB doesn't remember saying that. 2) how is UB going to get around in try to get in and out of our vehicles. That's what was tried when UB's truck was too hard for him to get in and out of. and that's why he bought the SUV. 3) If R and Ra oldest DD gets this car... how is that going to over with the rest of the extended family members.
Sunday R called leaving a voice mail wanting to pick up the SUV, and Ra, who is a nurse wants to be involved in his medical care ( Ra is a very very intrusive, pushy person who has a very long history of sticking her nose where it doesn't belong. The assisted living place is very small ( 7 residents) and they know that DH has medical and legal POA. Ra has already made a pest of herself that this place and is not liked at all.
DH is going to have to talk to his brother and tell that this is not happening and that UB has memory issues so no SUV for them. And No Ra is not going to be involved. The only reason she wants to be involved is because UB is wealthy and wants to get $$$$$ and she's a control freak. even though he gets excellent care where he is at.
I was hoping that after his parents passed away and we got the house cleaned up and sold (that was a CF) that we would not have to deal with them any more. UGH !!!!
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Originally Posted by hana
She is not well thought of with DH's extended family. However, the one redeeming of living in a small town/ county is that everyone knows everyone's business. The attorney that drew up DH parents paperwork is the same attorney that drew up UB paperwork. When R complained about their family house being sold in the manner it was ... He was asked: Do you have a buyer lined up? To which he didn't. They make good money, but they are not good stewards of it. AKA always in debt. The amout of IOUs that we found awhile cleaning out DH's parents place was astounding... Over 40K. R and Ra think that because I show horses and lived in what is now considered extremely high-income area, that I have bled him dry. Quite the opposite. I lived there wayyyy before it was considered well-to-do and sold while it was high. My place in Bellevue, I bought for 125K in the late 80's was sold in 2003 for 500K.. Like I said in an earlier thread, I financed my horse habit by selling / horses/ tack. And R and Ra don't have the proverbial pot to contest UB handling of the SUV or anything else, 