This resonates with me 100%.Originally Posted by iris lilies
This resonates with me 100%.
I have reason to believe that family members left behind might be able to overrule your organ donation wishes. No link, but I've "heard" that can happen. As in NOT harvest the organs, not the other way around...
IL - I understand your egg concerns. However, I'm the opposite. I would happily donate eggs. I would also surrogate birth for an anonymous (or family) mother. However, that ship has sailed!!! I would not donate a kidney, but that's because I have concerns I might need it due to ongoing issues with that department.
Theoretically, and only theoretically, I would be more likely to be a surrogate womb than donate genetic material because that is a one and done action.
But since I am medical-system avoidant, completely uninterested in pregnancy and birth, and uninterested in helping people or in populating the earth, I still would be the last person to do it.
I believe that can happen if you give them medical power of attorney, without directives, which they are supposed to follow.
For a long time I figured the idea would never cross my mind. I didn't like the idea (since being looked at as not even human by parts of my family), of being best used as parts.
But after having an older friend and a friends 14 year old daughter, get heart transplants, a friend get a double lung transplant (thanks to his employers screw up), one friend get a liver transplant (and he is on the list again as it is failing), several people I know needing kidney transplants, I have now seen both sides of the thing, first hand. Since I would prefer cremation, due to cost, why not let families have more time with their loved ones?
As of now, though, I am awaiting a horrible phone call. My bosses family, called me to inform me, that the oldest brother passed, while being released from the hospital. He has been fighting with them and they are not talking, so if he doesn't answer the phone, I get to inform him. Too many deaths so far this year.
So sorry, TMS. Condolences and prayers going out.
To give pleasure to a single heart by a single act is better than a thousand heads bowing in prayer." Mahatma Gandhi
Be nice whenever possible. It's always possible. HH Dalai Lama
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TMS sorry to hear yet another death in your circle.
So sorry TMS. You have had so much loss.
I don't get it, one of the reasons for not reproducing is not wanting to continue one's genetic material (that still leaves adoption if one wanted to parent, well sure, but then one might not think they would make a good parent either). But donating, how absurd, no.
Trees don't grow on money
There are plenty of people who are parents and who also participate in scientific baby production for other people. It isnt an either/or situation.
As for medical directives, do not underestimate the power your spouse (generic spouse) has in reversing your wishes.
if I say pull the plug in my medical directive in specifically defined situations, and then I become unconscious where the plug needs to be pulled, and my spouse says do not pull the plug! —conflict ensues. Depending on the health care providers involved, their knowledge of my stated wish, their concern for my spouse, the overall situation—it is not clear cut.
That’s why I had my brother be my medical POA for a while because in the early days of our marriage I wasn’t confident DH would pull the plug as I want. I KNOW my brother will! But DH has since proven reliable in that regard.
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