Your Criteria for Dating/Relationship Formation?

[LDAHL]

I never had a detailed list of criteria, being no great catch myself. This is definitely an area where the perfect is the enemy of the good.

My experience has been that most forms of happiness are something you blunder into rather than hunt down like an out of print book or an ISIS top lieutenant.

[bae]

In no particular order, and likely not complete:

- kind, to self and others
- reasonably intelligent
- is accomplished at something
- has failed at something
- honest
- emotionally stable. Significant mental health issues are a DQ
- physically fit enough for light/medium hiking/travel/adventure
- no substance abuse issues
- financially stable
- doesn't wish to have additional children
- doesn't have minor-age children
- if they have children, they have a good relationship with their kids
- doesn't mind large dogs
- doesn't necessarily want to move in together, and not looking to get officially "married".
- not vanilla
- no TERFS
- I don't want no commies in my car. No Christians either.

[JaneV2.0]

In no particular order, and likely not complete:

- kind, to self and others
- reasonably intelligent
- is accomplished at something
- has failed at something
- honest
- emotionally stable. Significant mental health issues are a DQ
- physically fit enough for light/medium hiking/travel/adventure
- no substance abuse issues
- financially stable
- doesn't wish to have additional children
- doesn't have minor-age children
- if they have children, they have a good relationship with their kids
- doesn't mind large dogs
- doesn't necessarily want to move in together, and not looking to get officially "married".
- not vanilla
- no TERFS
- I don't want no commies in my car. No Christians either.

That's a pretty good list. I would add sense of humor, happy nature, and chemistry to it.

[catherine]

In no particular order, and likely not complete:

- kind, to self and others
- reasonably intelligent
- is accomplished at something
- has failed at something
- honest
- emotionally stable. Significant mental health issues are a DQ
- physically fit enough for light/medium hiking/travel/adventure
- no substance abuse issues
- financially stable
- doesn't wish to have additional children
- doesn't have minor-age children
- if they have children, they have a good relationship with their kids
- doesn't mind large dogs
- doesn't necessarily want to move in together, and not looking to get officially "married".
- not vanilla
- no TERFS
- I don't want no commies in my car. No Christians either.

Hmm.. I'm more of the grab bag type. I think that's what LDAHL was saying, a little more eloquently. When I'm making demands of life, I typically say, "Surprise me!"

[dado potato]

I would ask who has a reputation for making the best lefse in town.

With any luck, this person would be a Norwegian who also can carry a tune.

[ApatheticNoMore]

A guy showed up on my doorstep. They say to all the single people "a partner isn't just going to show up on your doorstep someday" as the cliched advice. That is true, you need to get out there, or at least try personals, a partner isn't just going to show up on your doorstep!

However, if you are in a committed relationship and neither young nor available, one probably will. Why? Just the fates laughing at you, they always are, they like to be amused. A guy showed up on my doorstep to return a lost wallet (which I had missed), and developed a crush on me. I had to explain I wasn't single.

[JaneV2.0]

A guy showed up on my doorstep. They say to all the single people "a partner isn't just going to show up on your doorstep someday" as the cliched advice. That is true, you need to get out there, or at least try personals, a partner isn't just going to show up on your doorstep!

However, if you are in a committed relationship and neither young nor available, one probably will. Why? Just the fates laughing at you, they always are, they like to be amused. A guy showed up on my doorstep to return a lost wallet (which I had missed), and developed a crush on me. I had to explain I wasn't single.

I love this.

[iris lilies]

I love this.

I know! It is cute. APN should keep his contact info in her back pocket as backup.

[saguaro]

However, if you are in a committed relationship and neither young nor available, one probably will. Why? Just the fates laughing at you, they always are, they like to be amused. A guy showed up on my doorstep to return a lost wallet (which I had missed), and developed a crush on me. I had to explain I wasn't single.

Maybe a bit late to this but yeah, that's been my experience. Not literally showing up on my doorstep, but have had a few guys develop a crush on me after I was married, become very attentive and had to be told "sorry, not available".

[Teacher Terry]

I had a list when I met my third husband and he fit it. Unfortunately people can significantly change.