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    if moving and what i would keep

    I fantasize a lot about moving back to the mountains when I retire in a few years and who knows, maybe it will really happen. In the meantime, I was looking around the house and realized that there isn't much that I am terribly attached to anymore. For example, I sat in the living room and imagined what I would keep from that room. Not much-my tastes have changed over the years and so it is still full of antiques from some other period in my life when I loved them. It was a liberating thought to imagine having a large estate sale and just letting most of it go so we wouldn't have to move it. Ah, starting over would be interesting...

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    Yes, I often think that if I move again I will take very little with me. So much can be replaced at nominal costs if you shop home consignment stores etc. During a particularly bad time in my life, (and nothing to do at all with my husband), I just had this desperate desire to get away, and I would lie awake at night and mentally pack my car. Then I realized how little I could really get by with if need be. It is a liberating thought.
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    one of my favorite things from taoism (i think) is that when you turn 65, you begin counting your age backwards. in addition, you usually have a massive party, where everyone comes with food, and leaves with whatever they want from your home. then, the next day, you are gifted the bare bones of what you feel you need for continued living.

    nice, right?

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    We were discussing this again today, as once again we were talking about moving to the east coast. There is just so much stuff that we don't like that much or is due for a replacement anyhow or is reasonably cheap/easy to replace at our destination. The main big thing to keep is our beds - we love the mattresses and they're still fairly new. And beds are expensive to replace. Other than that, we'd try to bring the computers, favorite clothes and a few books. Some of the kitchen stuff that we actually like or is newer. Since most of our stuff is a mish-mash of old or second hand, replacing it shouldn't be hard. Some stuff we might just do without at least initially, like bookshelves, vacuum, kitchen table. We'd like to be able to just buy a truck and trailer, since we also want to trade in our little car anyhow, and only take what will fit.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Shalom_Poet View Post
    During a particularly bad time in my life, (and nothing to do at all with my husband), I just had this desperate desire to get away, and I would lie awake at night and mentally pack my car. Then I realized how little I could really get by with if need be. It is a liberating thought.
    Hey! I did this. 'Cept in my case, it have everything to do with the husband. And I did pack the car and drive away.

    But yes, it is amazing how little you need, even with kids in tow.

    Anybody remember the book or movie Sleeping With the Enemy? The protagonist swam away with some money in a pouch.
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    I always have moving on my mind though at this point I don't know to where or when that may happen. However, I have been really paying attention to what I own the last few years and have been getting rid of so much (and I have to admit I really never had lots of stuff anyway). As I unload my possessions I do feel a sense of freedom and I love the space I have in my house. Sometimes I too fantasize about just packing up and leaving and really, there would be very little I would feel sad to leave or feel any desperation if something couldn't fit in the trunk of my car.

    I like to keep a clean, cozy but "light" home and while I certainly have some possessions that I enjoy living with for now, the attachment to those things aren't there.

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    We have been in our house for almost 30 years. We have had a couple minor disasters (flooding, there have been at least 3 100 year floods here since 2007) that have forced us to go through some stuff and toss it. It was wonderful to have "permission" to get rid of wet magazines and such! I often think it would be a wonderful thing to pretend we're moving and keep just what we want. I doubt that will happen.

    This week my brothers and I are gathering at Mom and Dad's place. They are moving into an apartment after over 50 years in that home. My niece and her family will be moving into the house. We're going through and tagging what we might want, what can be sold or whatever, and what needs to just go. It will be interesting to see how this all works. And if we can keep Dad out of the mix! He's the "keeper" in that marriage.

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    My DH and I moved across country eight months ago. We packed our one car (a Pontiac Grand Prix) with all our most cherished possessions, including the cat. We packed up books and some art and less-vital-but-still-important paperwork, and mailed it to ourselves at our new address. The rest of the house, we left for an auctioneer to come and clear out and sell for us. Mind you, they came after two weeks of intensive decluttering and endless trips to the dump and the Goodwill shop. We arrived to an empty apartment, and went to Wal-Mart to buy two camp chairs and a blow-up matress. The next day we went shopping at consignment stores, thrift stores, Wal-Mart and Target, and got ourselves sorted out in about ten days.

    I don't miss one bit of the stuff we got rid of, and in another eight months we will be doing the same again when we move overseas. It really does feel nice to figure out what really is important and what is not, in terms of one's own possessions. The handful of things that were lost in the mail I have already easily replaced. There have only been a VERY small number of items that I got rid of myself and ended up needing to purchase again. Liberating!

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    I am sending stuff that I had shipped down here to Honduras on its trip back to the US in Missouri in the next couple of weeks. I'm sending about 1/3 as much back as I shipped down here, but I have been mailing smaller stuff back all along. It will go into a storage unit as I don't see myself moving back to the US for a couple of years. I still have a 10x20 unit in Nashville, and over then next several months I'll go back there a couple of times and move what I want to keep into the unit in MO. At most I'll have a 10x15, just one, and all but what will fit in 2 suitcases that will be with me will be in that one unit. It is a lot, but waaaay less than I had before. It's a process. The storage units have bought me time. I just couldn't get rid of stuff at the rate I needed to and handle the other things going on in my life at the time. The forced moves helped me turn loose of stuff that I wouldn't have otherwise. Having not seen the stuff in Nashville in over a year has helped loosen the hold most of it had on me, too. I know what stuff I miss, and most of it I can't even remember what is there, so it will get donated/sold.
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    Quote Originally Posted by shadowmoss View Post
    I know what stuff I miss, and most of it I can't even remember what is there, so it will get donated/sold.
    Is this not the key??!!??

    I found out from my daughter that several CDs that I thought went up in the house fire years ago, still live on at their dad's house.

    Have I missed those CDs enough to repurchase them? NO. Have I thought I would like to listen to them again.....hhmmm, maybe when I hear one of the songs on the radio. Worth $15 or calling the State Police to get MY STUFF back. Nooooooo.
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