General complaining doesn't bother me all that much because we all do it to a certain extent. The one case in which it bothers me emmensly is when my sister does it. She complains about things that most people only wish was happening to them.
She doesn't work and hasn't for at least thirty years. She has no kids. Her husband has a great job with involves domestic and international travel. She goes on many of his trips free of charge. She lives in a huge historic home which they've lovingly restored. Tomorrow she leaves on her free two week trip to Italy which her husband won for being employee of the year.
So what does she complain about? Everything. She hates the house, she hates cleaning the house and she hates that house doesn't allow her to do what she really loves, which is painting, which she didn't do for at least 20 years before they bought this house anyway. She hates dealing with contractors or anything else related to home ownership.
Everytime she has to go on a trip with her husband and there are other corporate wives along, she complains about most of the other wives, complains about what they did and complains about at least two or three aspects of the trip. (The last one was San Fran and Napa Valley, poor dear)
For weeks she has been complaining about how stressfull sitting at her computer planning every detail of the Italy trip has been. She is positively obsessed with planning every last detail of trips, not just hotels, restaurants and museums, but bakeries, delis, shops, and everything else planning out each and every walk, train ride, and car route for each day. I'll stop by after working all day at my computer and she'll repeat over and over how horrible it was to sit at a computer all day planning the trip of a lifetime. When she closed her computer without saving the "Tuscany" document she made everyone miserable for days because she had to reconstruct it. It never remotely occurs to her that other people work at computers all day doing stuff they don't love because they have to eat and pay bills.
Then there are the clothes buying trips, which she also hates. Everytime she goes on a trip, and we're talkin 3 or 4 a year, she has absolutely nothing to wear. I swear there must be a vortex in her closet (the giant new walk-in one they had built this year) that's sucking all her clothes to the great beyond on a regular basis. She says they're stained or not right for the trip. Off she goes to buy more. This time it was to a larger city that they stayed in overnight so she could get the right clothes for Italy. Shopping is just so damn stressful, so it requires staying at a nice hotel and eating in nice restaurants.
I'm sooooo glad she's leaving tomorrow. My single homeowner, not rich, non traveling, hardworking, dumpy clothes wearing self who is taking care of her pets while she's complaining her way through Italy needs one hell of a break. I did get the nerve to tell her yesterday that when she decides to give any of the stained, not right clothes to Goodwill, I want right of first refusal. I have detergent. I can get out stains dagnabbit! And we're identical twins. They'll fit me.
I feel better now.