The Daily Peeve / Rant

[Tybee]

Not to minimize the unfairness of the situation, but I do think the Christmas holidays are traditionally very stressful for this reason, as the social demands are so much higher than normal. All we did was entertain the kids and grandchildren for one day, and I spent three days cooking! I was muttering a lot in the kitchen for hours. It's just not something I normally have time for because I still work. It was a great day, but still. I can not imagine going down to NJ and then having them come back up for two more days and not getting pretty stressed at being behind. I mean it sounds lovely, but everyone has to understand you are still working, and are actually in an unusually busy time. My sister in law and I were just talking about this, about how tiring it is to have guests come in from out of town.

[rosarugosa]

Catherine: I know you and DH have a strong marriage, that you are both very different, and that most of the time you find that those differences allow you to complement each other. From here, it sounds like you are thoughtful, understanding and respectful of DH's qualities, and that he can often be pretty thoughtless in return. I would have a problem with that.
With that being said, we have a lot of successful long-term relationships here, and I doubt it's because any of us are perfect and have found a partner who is also perfect, so I guess we are people who have learned to take the bad with the good.

[catherine]

Well, we've kissed and made up. He apologized. All good! Thanks for listening!

[pinkytoe]

Of all people, DD reminded me a while back that in marriage "you have to pick your battles." I think another thing to consider is that since Covid many of us have been cooped up with our mates much more than usual (at least I have) and it is easy to get feathers ruffled in that situation.

[iris lilies]

Two houses really nice. Just sayin’.

[JaneV2.0]

Two houses really nice. Just sayin’.

It worked for us--but a duplex would have been ideal.

[razz]

Two houses really nice. Just sayin’.

You made me chuckle with this. What are the two of you going to do when both the condo and the Herman property renos are complete and you sit looking at each other wondering, "What do we do now?" Gardening and flower shows will help but there is a lot of down time as well. Just saying...
FYI, been down this road at one point.

[ApatheticNoMore]

Yea I thought about what if we lived together, and was like oof, it might not be good, and that was just thinking, nothing more than the idlest of thinking. The trick to staying together is living apart perhaps.

[iris lilies]

You made me chuckle with this. What are the two of you going to do when both the condo and the Herman property renos are complete and you sit looking at each other wondering, "What do we do now?" Gardening and flower shows will help but there is a lot of down time as well. Just saying...
FYI, been down this road at one point.

we are always busy! DH is REALLY busy as a little Energizer bunny, and me, well,
i am “busy” in my mind. I am pretty lazy, actually.

But that is why we got 1 acre for DH to play around with. Plus there are lots of social things we can do in Hermann. Plus taking a trip to the city every 10 days or so would be good. We shall see.

[Teacher Terry]

Someone on another forum has been with her partner for 23 years but never lived together. They have houses next to each other.