When I was pregnant with our first, we got a call saying the sister in law was pregnant and that WE would have to take the child because she was a raging alcoholic and couldn't care for it. Of course, we would have but I can't imagine having our newborn and another newborn with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome and probably many delays. She ended up losing the pregnancy not too long after that phone call which was probably best for all involved unfortunately.
Sorry for your loss, Catherine.