I married into a family that had a tradition of Christmas gifts. Everyone got things for all the kids.And the kids' kids. Somewhere in the recent past, but before my arrival, an arrangement was made that there would be drawing of names for the adults, but that all the kids below college age would get something from everyone. This, too, has become cumbersome. Because there was an insistence that everyone be involved, even though people lived as far away as Oregon and Florida.
Being the newcomer to the family I had some leeway as to ideas. Also, I'm not afraid to make someone uncomfortable if reality requires it. So... Last year, after over a year's worth of pressing, I got the family to stop the drawing of names for the extended family and the giving of gifts to all the kids. Jeeze! The kids included children of nephews and nieces! Now, there is no giving of gifts except within immediate families. None of this extended family stuff.
My commitment to not having clutter and the accumulation of things won out. While I must say that my DH did not support me in my campaign, the whole family finally came around to confessing that they wanted to stop all the giving and last Christmas was the first trial of the new plan. Everyone seemed satisfied.
Moral of the story: sometimes it takes a steadfast soul to drag others toward what they wanted all along.