Originally Posted by
Zoebird
been there, too, saguaro -- with both my parents and my ILs. Our sisters can do no wrong, are always better, and everything has to happen with their buy-in. truly, there are lots of things that I want to do for my parents, but without my sister's buy-in, forget it. They are not interested. Same with ILs. And, like you, we try our best, but at the end of the day, after years and years, there's just nothing right that we can do. And, it gets exhausting. You'd rather not keep trying, move around your plans when someone changes them at the last minute, and even if you did, it still wouldn't be good enough. I totally get it.