I am very organized, a planner, very meticulous about details. My DH is the opposite and it has caused problems often in our almost 40 years together. In his defense though he is ADD and has had a difficult time managing the details of life. I have often felt like his Mother over the years, having to oversee his life as much as the children I was raising. It got real old at the time. Things are better now though as he has learned to cope by making daily lists of things he needs to accomplish each day. I still help him as needed, but he oversees his own life quite well these days. Of course, being retired his life now runs at a much slower pace and that is very helpful!
And I might add many years ago I thought he was being passive aggressive, but after he was finally diagnosed ADD it all made sense, which was a big relief for both of us and gave us something to work with.
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