Dh and I moved to rural Michigan with our ds over 12 years ago with the goals of owning a restaurant and allowing ds to grow up and attend school is a quiet, safe enviroment. We came here to embrace and be embraced by small town America.
Ds has 4 1/2 more years of school. The restaurant will be paid off within the next two years. Life has been very sucessful in these two areas. We live frugally, saving some money and have a bit of security to show for it.
We decided in 2011 that we want to sell the restaurant in the next few years-hopefully around the same time ds graduates. We thought we would find a house somewhere is this general area and basically retire. FI3 by the age of 50. We talk alot about this, making this plan and that plan, never quite feeling confident in the future. Will we have enough money, will ds stay close to us or have to/want to move to a better area for work? Will we feel too isolated or be happy with the very quiet lifestyle we're about to embrace?
We know that even after all these years we just don't fit in. We aren't country people. We don't hunt, fish, snowmobile, etc. Our idea of a good time is heading to the city. We prefer hotels over tents any day of the week.
A couple of weeks ago dh and I realized that all the plans we had made and all the dreams we had shared for our lives together ended with ds graduating from high school. We've never really planned a future beyond that. Moneywise we dreamed of FI. We've worked our tails off 60-70 hours a week for the last 11 years to obtain this goal. We've settled on material posessions, and limited life experiences to reach these few goals. This Christmas was the first time we've had an entire week off as a family in over a decade.
Ok, you get the point. We've decided that we want to move back to the city. Back to the suburbs of Chicago which is where we were before ds entered our lives. It means a higher cost of living. We'll probably have to work at least part time for an additional 10 years of our lives. For us it means a giant improvement in the quaility of life once we get there. No more driving 40 miles to a decent grocery store, better doctors, more choices in entertainment, better quality goods, etc.
A more well-rounded, liberal, diverse enviroment.
Has anyone else decided to switch horses in the middle of the stream? Most people I know decided to move to the country, slowing down and decreasing their expenses as they age. I'd be interested in hearing from anyone who has decided to dive back into the hustle and bustle of city life.
It feels good to look forward to the future again. The thought of this being my entire life was very disappointing to say the least.