So I mentioned something at one point about our incident last week, and the ongoing issues of tone and professionalism, etc. So today I sat down with my staff person and it went pretty darn badly. Okay yeah like total suck. I think I did a decent job, but the bottom line is she has a write up and is arguing it. I am not sure how the conversations get so torn up with her but they do, and I tried to remember that I have had 3 outside complaints about her tone and the way she talks to people before this (I am one to take responsibility for a lot of things, too much so, and needed a boost).
At one point she was pointing her finger at me and saying things like "If you were doing your job,,," I cut off the conversation about then. Very early on I asked her to not interrupt me and she said that she feels I interrupt her all the time and she never gets a word in. I could almost agree with that, I cut her off when it becomes about having a judgement or angry words. So when she referred to the facilities person as a gangster I tried to steer it more professional and whent that didn't work I walked off. So it is true, and it is a conversation I have tried to have.
Bottom line, I can admit mistakes and I am not claiming I am perfect at my job but I do not deserve to have my finger pointed at me and to be talked to that way. I left the conversation that I would ask the department for a mediated conversation.