The Real Hourly Wage and life energy spent used to be superb deterrent for me in my spending. Not so anymore. Since DH and I have such a close hourly wage (his is a tad higher), I average them out and we get a neat $30 an hour for RHW. So when I find myself trying to apply RHW in analyzing a spend, I end up nearly never feeling like it's something I wouldn't want to spend my life energy on. Geez, I'm sure someone is reading this as a total brag, which it is absolutely not meant to be. The problem is that every INDIVIDUAL spend feels ok, feels acceptable or even a bargain, and then I do the monthly questions, and it's like CRAP! No, I did not want to spend a total of x on that - even if every individual instance of it felt fine.
Let's take restaurants.
DH and I are not drinkers or appetizer people but we are desert eaters. So usually we each have an entree, perhaps an iced tea but usually just water, and sometimes we split a dessert. $30 is a common tab for the two of us and makes our math here easier. So then I start to think, well, $30 for the two of us, and I split that in two because we both worked to earn the $$ for the meal, so I think, hey, is this meal worth half an hour at work to me? Yep, sure is.
Then at the end of the month I might total up our restauranting and see that we've spent $300, and suddenly, in retrospect, all of those restaurant visits do NOT feel like they were worth 5 hours of my life energy (10 hours of RHW divided by DH and I) to pay for them.
Writing this out, it occurs to me that perhaps it's not so much the amount of the spending that is throwing me off but the TIMING of asking the questions. Certainly if I am hungry and waiting in line to be seated at my favorite restaurant, I am going to feel like the life energy is pretty dang worth it no matter how high that number is. Looking at it a month later, well, perhaps not so much.
So I guess my question is, do you use some alternative methods for evaluating your spending on the spot? Questions you ask yourself, mantras you use, images, graphics, anything? Because I feel like having the control over whether I choose to work outside of the home is worth my life energy more than many other spends.
Thanks to catherine for the "what would you cut out?" thread that got me thinking about this. Sorry so long, that's kind of my MO on here lately!