Totally agree that it would be a bad idea to caretake your parents. This is your time to enjoy. Do the things you and your husband didn’t have time for, etc. I hope you can find a affordable home that you like.
Totally agree that it would be a bad idea to caretake your parents. This is your time to enjoy. Do the things you and your husband didn’t have time for, etc. I hope you can find a affordable home that you like.
It sounds like you have made the best decision for you and your family, so at least Step 1 is checked off. It is truly a difficult decision, but I think yours is well thought out. I wish you the best in Step 2, Tybee, and I hope that you do find the house that's right for you in New England.
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Thanks, guys, I appreciate the support!
I am so glad my father-in-law’s situation was resolved without rancor amoung the siblings. DH’s little brother had made noise about making sure his dad never went into nursing care and he would stay “a few months” if necessary to keep that from happening. But when FIL beoke his hip and is now unable to walk, that quickly and irrefuteably squelched the idea of a “few months” of care in FIL’s home. FIL is permenantly in a wheelchair.
None of the other siblings would have stepped up to be caregivers, not because there is family ill will but because they all have their own lives and know their limits. It is such a relief that no one amoung the 5 siblings is dictating what everyone else must do.
DH’s siblings really have always been practical and easy to get along with.
Success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which he has overcome. - Booker T. Washington
Paid on the car and the loan again. Less than $900 left on the car.
Ejchase, how are you doing?
one of my kids needs a little extra help this month, so I only paid $200 on the car. I can wait a little longer to pay it off.
CL, I found that when my kids were younger and recently launched they needed occasional help and we always did.
Thankfully, both kids haven't needed help since launching - with the exception of the one who came back home for a spell.
How can the same set of parents raise two children so diversely different in so many ways! The same child is dangerously walking a debt lifestyle.
We have gifted generously, and I suspect they are anticipating holiday gifts ($$$) to offset expenses.
I forced the help on this one.
we are still subsidizing the youngest (22) for health insurance and phone, but she just got promoted at work (after 4 months on the job!) and there is a plan to taper her off. The health insurance is a little annoying, because she can stay on dh insurance until she is 26. However, because her employer offers health insurance, we have to pay a premium to keep her in dh’s. If her employer did not offer health insurance, she would still be included on ours at no extra cost. Her employer’s insurance is not as good and the payroll deduction for her part of the cost would be more than the premium we are paying. So.... eventually, she will pay the premium. She will also take over the phone, but we are gifting her a year on that. She just finished paying off her car.
she is getting boots and baking dishes for Christmas.
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