What is the longest someone has pursued you before you agreed to go out with them?
In my case it was 2 years.
What is the longest someone has pursued you before you agreed to go out with them?
In my case it was 2 years.
My aunt held out for 3 years with one of her car pool mates. Sometimes a person gets jaded about relationships and has to be won over.
I spent two years in high school madly in love with one particular guy, unrequited. The second two years I switched gears and aggressively pursued another guy, who was also a best friend and confidante. Unrequited. Years later learned that they were both gay. Back then, no one came out--especially in high school. Sure wish they had been able to--would have saved me a whole of teen angst.
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Ok, I will respond to UL’s other post in the context of yppej’s new thread.
I agree that continuing to “pursue” cool aethiest woman may be a good strategy. Back in the day, I liked to see calm confidnce in men. That comment about “alpha male”made me cringe. OTOH I do observe this in dogs, but more about Alpha Bitch and jockeying for that position. The boy dogs are pretty chill together in our household.
So, to “pursue” would mean seeing her at events and making an effort to talk with her to show her you enjoy her company. Be steady about it. Do NOT let “alpha men” push you away.
I havent been “pursued”for a long time, maybe it was three months before
i warmed ip to the idea. An important old boyfriend asked me out in front of others for the first tiime so I sort of felt had to say yes. Then he would come to my workplace, public library, and kind of hang out a bit without being creepy but still. He made me uncomfortable but that was, looking back, an interesting sort of, ummm, tension. Then I told him I didnt date married men (he was separated) but that was just an excuse.
But still he persisted. Then we did go out for a while, but I limited it to twice a week, that is all I could take of that kind of intense thing. But then it got warmer, and from then it was a very good relationship.
Last edited by iris lilies; 11-7-17 at 10:31pm.
About a week for me, I think.
I don't play hard to get. I don't like that behavior in others, either ("The Rules"). I can understand the person I'm "pursuing" being in another relationship at the time (or recovering from the end of one). But I never waited around for them. If I found out they were available at a time I was; great. If not, oh, well.
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seems it could quickly turn into creepy stalker behavior too. If someone keeps persuing etc. after enough no's the thoughts turn not to love but to restraining orders.
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