I am upfront about my desire to remain child-free. She said, as I noted before, that she is willing to forgo having kids so that she can have a life partner. She has said: "A life partner is more important to me than having kids." She has also said: "I have no desire to be a single mom. Many women think they are trapping men when they do that but they are really just trapping themselves."
I cannot do the quote thing, but when you say things like the statements quoted by Jane and Iris lilies on the last page - that is EXACTLY what at least two women here heard.
Maybe not what you meant. But if you are not using "she is a 32 y.o. Womán" as shorthand for something, why mention it at all in that context? It is not an answer to anything except "what is her age and gender?" Nobody asked that. And you weren't telling us that because you already had. You were explaining why an extended casual relationship was not on the table.
so if you are not reducing her to a stereotype, what you need to say is "she really wants to get married, and feels like at 32 her chances of that get smaller every day, so she doesn't want to waste time on a relationship that isn't headed in that direction." And you need to actually know that based on conversation with her.
It just sounds like you don't know her that well yet, which is expected. Even though dates have been over several days se are all on out best behavior at the beginning.
However I don't see anything wrong if you are enjoying your time together to see where it goes
Americans are generally ignorant about the War of 1812.
Uh-oh! Look out! UL is saying every single American is exactly the same!
According to the u.s. Census of 2014, almost half of American women age 15-44 were childless. I would think that as you approach the upper end of that age range a higher percentage of them would be childless by choice. So I suppose it depends on your definition of "most".
but even if I concede "most" American women over 30 want children." (and more than half of those already have them, so really, what percentage of the rest want them?)
that has nothing to do with your new gf desire to get married. We know she wants children. She knows you don't. Why would she be in a hurry to marry you? Better from my pov to date you while looking for something better.
My advice to you is ask around. Collect opinions.
She may be dating me while looking for something better.
But give this a read:
https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine...ladies/308654/
There are currently 1 users browsing this thread. (0 members and 1 guests)