I think it's ok for a woman to compliment another woman's hair (expected even some places) but less so for a guy. So I agree with that take.
I also agree that technically the "they're just guys" could be interpreted as hostile work environment but I think it's the type of comment that would have to happen more than once for it to really be taken that way (usually hostile work environment stuff either has to be severe or pervasive). I do the required trainings on this stuff, year after year for various jobs, doesn't everyone.
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What I have found too is the bigger the department the more risk there is or if new people were constantly coming in. Anyways I have been retired 6 years and all my friends at work are too so no clue how the atmosphere is now but we were lucky that we didn’t have those worries.
I don't think a simple compliment is harassment.
Set up week a guy I teach with showed up with a new beard. He was also wearing shorts and a t-shirt (relevant later) he always teaches in slacks and a button down shirt.
So we arrive at the door together and I say cheerfully “new look.” And he says “yeah, it’s my summer look.” So I kind of thought he was planning to shave for the school year (also thought it was odd, because isn’t a beard hot?)
but he did did not shave. Apparently he thought I was commenting on his shorts?
if someone is a friend and they look nice, I will tell them. If they are not, I do not comment on their appearance (unless their shoe is untied or something like that “do you know your shoe is untied?”)
Well, UL, they are putting you in a very difficult place. I think a brief "Nice haircut" would be acceptable to all. Maybe.
I wouldn't expect anyone to comment on my hair unless it was a drastic change.
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