Has anyone read Anita Moorjani's Dying to be Me? She was a typical "good girl" in India, and lived to please her husband and parents. In her 20s (I believe--she was young) she got cancer, and nearly died one night but had an NDE, in which she witnessed from her deathbed, among other things, her brother hearing the news of her impending death and getting on the train to rush to the hospital.
When she revived, she had spontaneous remission. The cancer was gone. Her lesson from that experience was to live uncompromisingly for herself, joyfully. It's an inspiring book.
Like Williamsmith, I don't have any strong opinions about what happens when we die. Even though I identify with my lapsed Catholic faith, I don't fully believe in "heaven," unless heaven is interpreted as the here and now.
I do "feel" those who have gone before me, though, and I am entirely open to the promise of whatever the next chapter is, or isn't.
I appreciate razz, bae, Biking Lady sharing their experiences. We know so little about life and death, it's fascinating to hear about those who have come close to the edge.
Anita Moorjani's afterword, edited:
Before I close, I'd like to leave you with a few final words. Always remember not to surrender your power--instead, get in touch with your own magnificence. When it comes to finding the right path, there's a different answer for each person. The only universal solution I have is to love yourself unconditionally and be yourself fearlessly! This is the most important lesson I learned from my NDE, and I honestly feel that if I'd always known this, I never would have gotten cancer in the first place.
Finally, I can't stress enough how important it is to enjoy yourself and not take yourself or life too seriously. One of the biggest flaws with many traditional spiritual systems is that they give you such a somber outlook. ... Day-to-day problems never seem as big when viewed through a veil of humor and love.
Our life is our prayer. It's our gift to this universe, and the memories we leave behind when we someday exit this world will be our legacy to our loved ones. We owe it to ourselves and to everyone around us to be happy and to spread that joy around.