Okay, to get back on topic.
I talked with W last night on the phone (we talk on the phone or skype daily).
I explained to her that I thought our major lifestyle differences were a concern.
I even said things you all pointed out -- like would I be out fishing while she was at the football game or would I be reading a book at home while she is out drankin' with her gal pals?
I pointed out how some of the best and happiest couples I know share one or two (or even three) passions. I know a couple who loves gardening together. I know another couple that loves bicycling; it really bonds them! I know another couple that loves skydiving.
I explained to her that we get along on the day-to-day things -- making breakfast, choosing a movie to watch, which park to take our walk in the evening, etc. I also explained we seem to have an excellent "physical" connection. But I noted we were missing a passion we're both really into, a shared deeply-held interest or activity, the kind of thing that deeply bonds a couple together.
She said: "I am shocked. I am just shocked. I thought things were going really well. We get along great, we enjoy each other's company, we have lots of fun together. I thought we were going the right direction at a steady pace. Now I find out that we're just enjoying mere amusements together, in your opinion."