TxZen
11-16-14, 5:52pm
I received a box, out of the blue, from my sister last week. It contained my mom's doll and a painting she did back in August of last year. My mom passed last February and though we were on nice speaking terms our relationship was coolish at best for many, many years, her choice and too long of a story for now. I will give a small insight, for the last 20 years, my mom gave my sister EVERYTHING and I got nothing. My sisters home is now a shrine with all the antiques my mom had and some family items and now add my mother's paintings and some items she crocheted. I did not want any of these items, just stating how things are. I must explain I am not a sentimental person and these items resided in a heavy smokers home. I own nothing from my family other than a small box photographs. Why my sister sent these things I do not know. She said something to the effect of me collecting dolls. I have not own a doll since I probably in my early teens and yes. She said the painting was because I paint. I have not painted anything since high school, so 23ish years. I don't know..it's my cray cray family and I just let it go.
The doll is probably 60 years old and needs her arm repaired. I checked online and she is not worth anything more than $20 at best. Her hair is matted and smell heavy of smoke and I cleaned the clothes she was in but they still reek. The painting is in a cheap frame. My mom took up painting in her last year of life. It's nice but not my style. I asked my son do you want these items, truly (without involving my own opinion.) He said no thank you.
The only thing I really ever wanted was a few of the older pics of family, for my son, so he has some true history.
Now- I did hem and haw about donating these items but in the end, I threw out the doll. I said a nice little zen prayer and put her in the trash. She is beyond repair and a donation site would probably do the same.
I did donate the picture with it's frame and stand, again saying a nice zen prayer and sending it off.
If you are struggling, know first it's ok and normal and second, make the best decision with your head that works for you. I know my family would probably be irate if they knew what I did and that shall be taken to my grave because it's not worth the fight when I never asked for this stuff. Just know it's ok to let stuff like this go and no worry about it.
The doll is probably 60 years old and needs her arm repaired. I checked online and she is not worth anything more than $20 at best. Her hair is matted and smell heavy of smoke and I cleaned the clothes she was in but they still reek. The painting is in a cheap frame. My mom took up painting in her last year of life. It's nice but not my style. I asked my son do you want these items, truly (without involving my own opinion.) He said no thank you.
The only thing I really ever wanted was a few of the older pics of family, for my son, so he has some true history.
Now- I did hem and haw about donating these items but in the end, I threw out the doll. I said a nice little zen prayer and put her in the trash. She is beyond repair and a donation site would probably do the same.
I did donate the picture with it's frame and stand, again saying a nice zen prayer and sending it off.
If you are struggling, know first it's ok and normal and second, make the best decision with your head that works for you. I know my family would probably be irate if they knew what I did and that shall be taken to my grave because it's not worth the fight when I never asked for this stuff. Just know it's ok to let stuff like this go and no worry about it.