dream meaning

[Zoe Girl]

i had a dream last night that is making some sense but the dream dictionary isn't fitting quite right. So in my dream i had a brand new job and then my new boss kissed me. it wasn't an unwelcome kiss, just a nice 'dream kiss' (something that means something and is totally okay in a dream but in real life would be totally not okay) all the meaning of job were on the negative side, losing a job, needing a break from a job, not a new job. i am taking this very positive, that there is a new opportunity and the kiss just means that it could be good.

the funny thing is that work sucks, i keep on hitting a wall on the same issue i have had since August and each time i feel like all the work i am doing is called into question. yesterday i called someone who has been supportive of our homeless student situation and told her based on an email to all of us that i am on the verge of being fired, being dinged in my performance, being called into another meeting where i take my lumps. what i would love is a professional mediator in this situation (my side job :)

[Xmac]

Zoe,
I've heard that every character in your dreams is you. It's kind of ironic that what you want is a mediator and you are one. How would you mediate between you and your boss and co-workers if the outcome of that mediation didn't affect you personally.

Maybe the effect would feel like a caring kiss.

[Valley]

Xmac makes a wonderful point Zoe. I think you have to be able to see yourself objectively (which is almost asking the impossible of any human being) as a party in the middle of a problem you were asked to mediate. What would you tell yourself to do? What would you tell your boss to do? Can you do any of that on your own right now. I'm not saying it would be easy to do, but it would give you a glimpse of yourself from a "third party" viewpoint. Good luck with this, I don't think I could do it myself!

[Zoe Girl]

quite interesting, hmmm.

I realize I want to know what each parties interests are. In mediation that is the list of things that are important, not a position (what you specifically want to happen). It is important to start with interests because often we jump into positions and become deadlocked. So for me one interest is that I am seen as doing a good job, and that this conflict does not count against me in a rating that leads to raises. A position may be I want a statement in my file, an apology, a correction of the account, a departmental policy. And I know that I do not know what the other persons interests are, I think everyone would be quite surprised to hear that I am concerned about my reputation and career over this, what is their special position.