Zoe Girl
5-2-15, 10:57am
i have a dear friend and often it seems like we have nothing in common. a few years ago we were both diagnosed bipolar 2, well that explains a lot. she has had medical issues the entire 10 years i have known her and a lot of caregiving stress. after being stoic for a long time she now lets me visit her when she has a surgery. it is nice i live in the city 15 minutes from the hospital instead of everyone else in the 'burbs 45 minutes away.
about a year ago she got married, i was so happy for her! the last time we met for lunch she said that not only was the affection not there (sex) but there were financial issues from cashing in an investment. so instead of getting some ease financially they were struggling. he has always been employed, no gambling or drinking issues, so it was just a bad choice while she was struggling as a single mom and long distance caregiver for mom. right now she is working a side job again (her primary job is a preschool aide for special needs, she has been hit, bit, you name it)
she has been sick again, and last night through texting she said she turned down the latest test because she is done fighting all this. if it is her time then it is her time. wow. so i am going to try and take time off work or my move to take her to lunch or dinner. it is her heart so it could mean she lives a really long time or suddenly has a problem. i think it is my job to just be with her and not fight it or argue it like most people do. but this morning it kinda hit me in my meditation. she is younger than me, has 5 grand babies, her son is my middle daughter's age and went to school with her, was at the shooting with my older daughter that night, i don't have any other friends like that (our families are connected). so that is all,
about a year ago she got married, i was so happy for her! the last time we met for lunch she said that not only was the affection not there (sex) but there were financial issues from cashing in an investment. so instead of getting some ease financially they were struggling. he has always been employed, no gambling or drinking issues, so it was just a bad choice while she was struggling as a single mom and long distance caregiver for mom. right now she is working a side job again (her primary job is a preschool aide for special needs, she has been hit, bit, you name it)
she has been sick again, and last night through texting she said she turned down the latest test because she is done fighting all this. if it is her time then it is her time. wow. so i am going to try and take time off work or my move to take her to lunch or dinner. it is her heart so it could mean she lives a really long time or suddenly has a problem. i think it is my job to just be with her and not fight it or argue it like most people do. but this morning it kinda hit me in my meditation. she is younger than me, has 5 grand babies, her son is my middle daughter's age and went to school with her, was at the shooting with my older daughter that night, i don't have any other friends like that (our families are connected). so that is all,