can you or how do you ask?

[Zoe Girl]

I am concerned about one of my supervisors. We have paired supervisors and one of them is very pregnant, her last day is today until mid-January. She has always been an uber-hard worker which benefits us because we get what we need. However I am happy she is taking a real break with baby. Meanwhile my other supervisor is going to be out Monday. She was out last Monday and Tuesday, so the week I was on retreat and 2+ weeks in September for her wedding and honeymoon. I have been concerned in general but definitely about the amount of time she takes off. I had put it aside thinking that she was taking it now rather than when her partner was off on maternity leave but now the first day that J is off she is also taking off. I just have to wonder if it is medical and if she is okay.

So can I or should I somehow ask? She seems to leave another person as a contact when she is out but I have some things that are not extremely urgent but I need to ask about.

[Ultralight]

I would not ask. I would just play it cool.

[sweetana3]

I also would not ask.

[Ultralight]

No good deed goes unpunished.

[iris lilies]

If she wanted you to know her health issue, if there is one, she would have told you.

Keep your eye on the ball. Your interest is not in her health or even really the amount of time she is taking off. Your interest is in getting answers from her so that you can do your job. That's the core issue.

How does email figure into your communication with her?

in the end, all you can do is send clear, concise questions to her via whatever medium she prefers. She may or may not answer for a variety of reasons. If you carry out effective communication on your end, you are doing the job. You cannot control her response or lack of it.

what does your job coach say about this? Seems like a question she would want to address with you.

[Float On]

Its not your business other than to find out who to ask questions of while she is gone but that should already be established.
Heck, she may have a huge amount of sick days built up and has been advised to use some of them.

For me I can build up sick days up to 3 years worth then I either need to take the time off or get paid for them. My husbands can build forever...and take cash payout when he leaves. Very handy for any long-term illness.

[ToomuchStuff]

Haven't you said in other threads, that you have been having issues with following directions?
This clearly seems like your trying to violate privacy issues with stuff that is none of your business, rather then follow her directions about resources to use when she isn't there.

[Zoe Girl]

honestly i am not trying to violate her privacy and i am not going to ask. i am concerned that something is wrong and if she is okay. we used to have a department where it was safe to share these types of things but that has been about 2 years since it started to drastically change. then i also want to get my job done.

i saw my job coach today and one thing is to try one more time to get my annual goals approved by emailing and offering 2 times i can meet. then after giving it a week i need to go up the chain of command because this is work i am responsible for. i have been asking for this on a regular basis since it was due. we also agreed that the entire box of things i turned in at the end of the year (children's files, other paperwork that needs to be kept, and staff badges) that is missing is something to drop. i did my part by turning it in properly. i asked one person on the side and she said she has heard other people have boxes missing and i will trust that the right person knows.

[bae]

I wouldn't get into her personal business at all, unless she offers to share.

I'd stick to business business, and getting the job done.