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razz
5-10-16, 5:25pm
DD1 and I have had a number of discussions about the kids and sports and the challenges involved. This CBC article http://www.cbc.ca/sports/sports-participation-canada-kids-1.3573955 has taken a fair view of the situation, I think.

Do we spend too many hours and resources on the limited too few, too early and neglect that sports are supposed to be fun and not so competitive and expensive as to turn kids away from sports?

By about age 13, many youngsters have already stepped away from an active life style. And it can't simply be chalked up to laziness, video games or "kids these days."

In fact, adults should get much of the blame. Most kids quit because they think they're not good enough — a by-product, experts say, of the hyper-competitive environment that lords over most youth sports.

"Just because a kid at age 10 isn't on a scholarship track doesn't mean there shouldn't be a place for them in the game," says John O'Sullivan, founder of the Changing the Game Project, a Portland, Ore.-based organization trying to put the "play" back in "play ball."

Obsessed with the best
Nearly three quarters of Canadians — 73 per cent — agree, saying that children's sports have become too focused on winning at the exclusion of fun and fair play, according to the study.

And yet, our continued obsession with rooting out the "best" players at an early age is having a devastating effect, O'Sullivan says.

"The problem is we are trying to select out the 'talent' far, far too young, by starting highly tiered teams with cuts. We're saying these eight-year-olds are on the top team, so they get the best coaching and best facilities, and these other kids go down this house league track. "

O'Sullivan says this makes little sense, even if your only goal is to develop the top athletes.

Karri Dawson is director of the True Sport Foundation, a national charitable organization dedicated to advancing sport in Canada and a partner on the study with Vital Signs.

She says parents should look at athletes on Canada's Olympic teams.

"Chances are they were multi-sport athletes," she says. "They played hockey in the winter, soccer in the summer and they participated in different sports at school. They cross-trained, and they exercised all kinds of different muscles and abilities that one day made them gifted at a particular sport."

Rising costs

Even if children are able to navigate the ultra-competitive landscape of youth sports, and even if they actually have the skills to compete at the highest level, it still may not be enough.

The Vital Signs/True Sport Foundation study finds that the rising cost of sports is also a barrier for many families. The most recent data shows that six out of 10 children from low-income households are active in sports, compared with 8.5 out of 10 from families with incomes over $80,000...

Sounds straightforward. And, indeed, the key to keeping more Canadian kids active, say the authors behind the report, could be keeping things simple.

"It doesn't have to be the big hockey league or big, institutionalized sport," says Rose. "It can be as simple as a pick-up game of hockey or soccer in the park in the summer."

To do that, though, we may need to drop our obsession with being the best, says O'Sullivan.

"We're so scared that we aren't going to keep up that we're doing all this stuff that goes against everything we know about how to make sports better."

KayLR
5-10-16, 6:03pm
Yep, this has been a thing for a while.

My grandsons live in Texas (they moved there when he was, oh, 9 or 10) where football is one of the main religions. He can't possibly compete with kids who've been training since they were old enough to hold a ball. He played a bit in 7th grade, but from then on he was not picked up for any teams. He's small, and his mother (single) doesn't have the money (and never has) to send him to one camp after another or hire a personal trainer. So instead, he just sits around playing video games or getting in trouble on his skateboard. It's done a trip on his self-esteem as well. He loves sports, but there's nowhere for him.

Here in my city, the inner city high schools are always on the bottom of the standings, get trounced regularly and embarrassingly during whatever season it is, because the kids' parents can't afford to get them on elite teams or send them to camps continuously.

The one good thing I've seen happen in the past two years is a high school bowling league for girls. What a level playing field. You don't have to be beautiful or thin (cheerleaders) or have to have been to a rigorous camp. Not a lot of expensive equipment. The state champions can come from an inner city school, can be low income, and boy, do they feel good about themselves.

Zoe Girl
5-10-16, 8:17pm
It is a big concern for me, I work with elementary kids so we are still okay overall. But my kids had little interest in sports, the little bit of interest in swimming passed quickly. They were fine but the competition gets old


The soccer and girls running programs I have are non-competitive. Very important to me. The soccer is also 'no goalie' style so no kids are sitting in the goal box because they don't feel good enough. There is a lot of emphasis on skills. The Girls on the Run program is awesome! I ran the 5K with the girls on Saturday, I worked at not focusing on my time. It was great to see about 2,000 runners come together for the event. All ages, genders, sizes, colors, language, and even some hijabs. The focus was on just enjoying the run and community. I wish there was more of this type of programming for all kids.

Teacher Terry
5-10-16, 9:07pm
My kids have been adults for a long time but our community had a center where you could be on any team and everyone got to bat, etc. Every season was a different sport and if parents yelled at coach, etc they were thrown out for 3 games. I didn't have my kids play school sports. I have younger friends with school aged kids and it has really gotten out of hand. All the expensive camps, etc and her kids have gotten seriously injured and still played. One ended up having a lifetime ankle injury that affects her walking from playing soccer. REally stupid.

JaneV2.0
5-10-16, 9:30pm
I would cheer if there were less emphasis on sports--which, after all, are designed for only the most skilled athletes. Fewer sports mean fewer sports injuries, and I would think any parent would breathe a sigh of relief to not have to worry about traumatic brain injury from football hits or soccer headers. Exercising for good health and fun is another matter.

Zoe Girl
5-10-16, 11:01pm
I always wanted my kids to develop a lifetime sport, not a hugely competitive thing but something they could do well into middle and older age. Football and rugby seem a little hard on the body, however there are adult soccer leagues and softball everywhere, Masters swim programs, golf, tennis, and of course running.

Williamsmith
5-11-16, 4:29am
I grew up in a community where there were many my age from similar economic situations. We were sent outside for the day and not expected back until dark. We learned to organize our own games without adult supervision. We had a baseball, basketball and a football team. Our equipment was begged, borrowed and on occasion stolen. We travelled by bike or walked to different communities to compete. We umpired by consensus. Sometimes we negotiated a win.

My dad and one of his buddies organized the first Little League baseball team and Pop Warner football team in our community. I can remember my uncle umpiring and a coach from the other team arguing about rules during a game. The argument turned into a fist fight right there in front of about twenty of us kids. Now that was forty five years ago and it made an impression on me.

I have been in organized sports all my life. I coached baseball for ten years. There is a phenomenon called travel baseball that has gripped organized youth baseball. It is largely detrimental to youth development. People who sell macro sports organization like to tell parents their kid is special and would benefit from specialized instruction and one sport dedication. Parents buy high priced instruction from dubious sources, spend huge sums of money on equipment and transportation costs, take the entire family with them on tournament circuits all in a chase for a college scholarship that does not exist.

Parents spend as much money chasing the dream of a professional athlete as it costs for an average college tuition. In addition, there are private companies and college sports programs that tap into the last remaining dollars a family has by selling personal instruction in the form of camps or competitive tryouts. The tryouts are often designed only to,pump up your ego and extract as much money as possible from your bank account. Usually, the company has a special team event that of course costs more to attend with the promise of increasing exposure to college recruiters or professional scouts.

It is all a scam. I know because I watched parents get entangled in it and I've seen it from start to finish. My son was a college scholarship pitcher. We dabbled a little in all these questionable venues and I know now as I did then, they did not have my sons best interest in mind. It is all rooted in greed and fear.

Now if if you talk like this to a family that is in the middle of this, they are going to push back hard because they are so invested economically and emotionally. It really is a great scam. But Insay from experience, if your kid is going to be a professional or a college recruit for that matter, the one thing that matters and cant be changed is his latent athletic ability and desire. And that's what matters most and cannot be bought.

One of those kids I grew up with playing without any adult supervision, he was a college baseball player, earned an award for the best division I player in the country called the Silver Spike, was drafted into Major League Baseball and owns two World Series Rings. Today he is manager of a Major League Baseball team. He was a multi sport athlete in high school and never played on a travel team and never had any special instruction.

So Yeah, pay to play in my mind is total bullcrap. Kids are dropping out because it became work not play.

Miss Cellane
5-11-16, 6:54am
Well, active lifestyle doesn't have to mean sports, although that's the focus a lot of people have. It could also mean a lifestyle where you walk places instead of drive, go hiking, work in the garden, etc.

My niece loves to swim. There was a community swim club, where she could go 3-5 times a week after school and get coaching on how to swim better, learn new strokes, etc. It was not a swim team; there were no competitions. She loved it.

But the coaches were also involved with the local swim team. Because my niece is a good swimmer, they kept encouraging her to join the swim team. She resisted for a while, then tried one competition. She won a race, and came in second and third in two others. And hated it. She went back to the swim club, but eventually quit, at age 10, because of the pressure to go back to the swim team and compete. She didn't want to compete. She just wanted to swim.

She has since tried softball, lacrosse and is currently on her high school volleyball team. But she gets more exercise at home, outdoors, cross country skiing in the winter and working on the property with her dad in the summer. And her parents put in a swimming pool, so she can swim without the pressure.

Her parents keep up the academic pressure, because they think it is more likely that she would get a scholarship for her grades and academic ability than sports.

Ultralight
5-11-16, 7:14am
Hoop dreams.

Lainey
5-11-16, 9:15am
Agree about the lure of the college scholarship drawing many parents into this aspect. The "scholar-athlete" model is highly promoted as a way to go to college for free.