Inviting people to your house

[frugal-one]

Well, tonight we invited people over to play cards. Said I would just have munchies and to be here 6:30 or 7ish. Just got a phone call (6:35 pm) stating she was an hour away and that her brother was supposed to be there to take care of her mother but did not show up. Not sure when he will be there... is it ok to perhaps come later or postpone until next week? I asked if she called her brother... ah, no. I can understand things happen but this seems weird. It is irritating in that I made a few things... that we normally would not have in the house for 2 people, cleaned the house, set food out, bought drinks for them that we would not have in the house, and showered and dressed. Hey, I would already have been in my jammies watching Netflix. The thing that bugs me is to call the last minute to say you won't be there. Obviously, we are waiting for them to show up. Just a rant, ignore me.

[Simplemind]

I am so sorry. I hate when people are passive aggressive like that. If she was really committed to coming she would have made sure the way was clear. If there is truth in the story with her brother she could have called more than an hour before. However, the fact that she hadn't called her brother tells you everything you need to know.

[iris lilies]

I'm sorry to hear this, OP. Disappointing for sure.

[flowerseverywhere]

At least your house is cleaner than normal.

We we often invite people over. We are not drinkers though so unless it is a few beers DH might enjoy watching sports we tell everyone BYOB.

Things happen. Are they worth a second chance or time to find different friends to take invite?

[Zoe Girl]

I know the feeling, I have hosted a few potlucks for my sangha (buddhist group) and really tried to make sure that I had people planning on coming. Still the last one I had one person, my faithful friend, who came. Next plan is just to meet for coffee and invite others but not really count on them. Then at least I don't make food for a group and end up eating the same leftovers all week.

[freshstart]

that's pretty rude, I don't think I'd invite them over for a good long time.

[Teacher Terry]

I actually have never had that happen and I would be mad. I would probably not invite them again. Asking if they can come next week is ridiculous.