View Full Version : I got the job !!!!!
Yeah !!!! The closest one to my house also! It is $5K less a year that more than makes up for not needing more than occasional therapy instead of weekly. Plus my sanity.
I am so super happy, we will set a start dates tomorrow ( i didnt tell them i already have one in mind) and then i can deliver my notice.
I am happy for you. Serves your supervisor right to lose you.
Simplemind
7-11-18, 6:17pm
So, so, so HAPPY for you!!!!
Woo hoo! You HAVE to share in detail the reaction of your “sup.”
iris lilies
7-11-18, 6:23pm
Oh praise the goddesses and happy dancing for all!
Last person under him who quit he appeared shocked, like why was she leaving such a horrible relationship
YEAH ZOE WAY TO GO!!!!!!!!!!!!
SO HAPPY FOR YOU
Yes! I actually have a witchy group that meets on the 13th of every month that i can celebrate with
Break out the mead! I hope this job is a perfect fit for you.
iris lilies
7-11-18, 6:40pm
Break out the mead! I hope this job is a perfect fit for you.
Believe it or not, I actually have a bottle of mead cooling in our fridge right now. Homemade, with our apples and neighbor’s honey. It is a dry alcoholic drink, not what you would think.
I know the salary may be a slight step back, but with a good fit and a positive attitude, you have shown you can work your way even higher. And balance in life is so important. Closer to home also means so much more time for yourself.
I am so very happy for you.
ApatheticNoMore
7-11-18, 7:04pm
good news
Gardenarian
7-11-18, 7:10pm
Congratulations!!
gimmethesimplelife
7-11-18, 7:17pm
I'm glad to hear of this! Congrats and Best Wishes and kudos too for hanging in there and navigating things until this new opportunity panned out for you. Rob
Believe it or not, I actually have a bottle of mead cooling in our fridge right now. Homemade, with our apples and neighbor’s honey. It is a dry alcoholic drink, not what you would think.
I may have tasted mead years ago; I may have enjoyed it. Is it anything like kombucha?
Congratulations!
How much notice do you have to give at current location? How much additional PTO hours do you have remaining? Can you use those for a vacation break before the new job?
I'm so relieved for you to be departing the current toxic supervisor and expectations. Stand proud and strong. If supervisor is as manipulative/power hungry as in the past and this morning, he/she is liable to try to throw guilt your way over your FMLA. Should that begin, hold up your hand and say stop-I will not tolerate your criticism of mental health status.
:cool:
YAY for you ZG! So relieved for you, to be out of that hellhole of a situation.
iris lilies
7-11-18, 8:00pm
I may have tasted mead years ago; I may have enjoyed it. Is it anything like kombucha?
I dont know what kokbucha is.
Mead is like champaigne, dry and white with light bubble action. This homemase stuff has some cloudy junk floating around in it. It is quite hgh in alcohol content The maker estimates as much as 16% alcohol in it.
Thank you all! I cannot just take vacation until the end however i do have a week vacation planned.
Depending on how my medical leave was handled, vacation or sick, i will get paid out between $3 to 6K for my unused vacation time
I dont know what kokbucha is.
Mead is like champaigne, dry and white with light bubble action. This homemase stuff has some cloudy junk floating around in it. It is quite hgh in alcohol content The maker estimates as much as 16% alcohol in it.
Kombucha is fermented tea; it has the cloudy junk (mother), but very little alcohol. It's the closest I come to drinking wine. It's bubbly, and can be dry.
Thank you all! I cannot just take vacation until the end however i do have a week vacation planned.
Depending on how my medical leave was handled, vacation or sick, i will get paid out between $3 to 6K for my unused vacation time
ZG, with a documented and approved FMLA, they must pay you from your sick account. They CANNOT use your Vacation time. If they did, make them change it. Vacation is your earned benefit and a liability on their books and they may well try to do that but hopefully they are above that. and I am so happy to hear you have a small windfall there to get paid out upon departure. Great financial cushion for you!!!!
So awesome! Congratulations!
mschrisgo2
7-11-18, 9:20pm
Way to GO!!!! Congratulations!!!
Teacher Terry
7-11-18, 10:20pm
ZG, I am doing a happy dance. Wow what a relief. It doesn’t matter if you have a MI or not no one could have succeeded in that toxic environment with such unrealistic expectations. Sending you a big cyber hug:))
Thank you all, thank you terry. I remembered a thing my ex FIL used to say: Lack of prior planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on my part.
They were not prepared when they handed this site to me, and I didnt make it my emergency
Teacher Terry
7-11-18, 11:03pm
I worked for 24 years matching people with disabilities to appropriate jobs and no one is right for this job. I don’t for one minute believe your disability had anything to do with what happened. Just reading about what is expected makes my stomach hurt. I am so happy for you. You are dedicated to your kids and your job.
Oh Terry thank you again, it has been a rough road with my brain. A lot of times i think how my brain works is wonderful, but the depression is rough day after day (4 days until new med should be wprking)
catherine
7-12-18, 12:05am
Congratulations!! So happy for your new beginning!
dado potato
7-12-18, 12:23am
It is good to open a new chapter in your work-life!
rosarugosa
7-12-18, 5:44am
Congratulations, ZG! This is wonderful news! Is it within your same school district? Do you keep the same seniority/benefits, or is it an entirely new employer entity?
Sending tons of HUGS your way Zoe Girl! Take a deep breath and relax!
Congratulations, ZG. Wishing you the best in your new position!
IshbelRobertson
7-12-18, 10:08am
Congratulations on your new post, ZG. I know anywhere is better than the awful job you have at present, even at a lower salary!
Congrats! So hoping this new job site has realistic expectations, good communications, and staff support.
It is a new school district, my school district has burned me entirely. I have 2 people I know who want to report serious issues in this district right now. We just were banned from using CityYear (part of Americorps) because people used it against the rules.
I am at the top of their pay scale for this role, yes they actually have pay scales based on education and experience! The 2 districts I interviewed with had actual pay scales for these jobs, No more having a HS grad with 2 years experience earning the same as me. Benefits sound good, a stipend for health insurance and they offer Kaiser so I can keep my DR's. So essential for my brain DR. So I don't know exacts but that is okay, not like it would change my mind. The vacation accrual is less, and I never came close to using my vacation anyway.
Hey also 2 weeks off at the winter holidays!! No running camps during the whole break.
I am just heading to the office after I shower to turn in my notice to my supervisor this morning. Whew, It is going to feel good.
I am just heading to the office after I shower to turn in my notice to my supervisor this morning. Whew, It is going to feel good.
Wohoo! Stand proud and strong! Congratulations again on finding a new position with a fresh start. The past is past:cool: Breathe in deeply through your nose and exhale slowly (all that crap) out of your mouth!
Today is the 1st day of the rest of your life!:welcome:
ZG, I am so, so happy for you! It will be such a GREAT feeling to turn finally in your notice and get out of that toxic environment! Breathe deep and relish that great sigh of relief! Onward and upward, as they say!
Congratulations!!! :cool: I'm so happy for you. What an awesome feeling it will be to turn in your notice. And then you get to start on a fresh new adventure. Happy dance for Zoe Girl!
Congratulations and happy-happy-happy for you!
sweetana3
7-12-18, 12:29pm
Thanks for keeping us informed. This is a large group of people who all wish you well. Gardnr has it right.
Thank you! The support here has literally been a life and sanity saver.
How he reacted? He cried. He actually cried and apologized if he ever hurt my feelings
He actually cried and apologized if he ever hurt my feelings
wow. Unbelievable!
Sad Eyed Lady
7-12-18, 1:12pm
Great news! Keep us updated on the new job!
I would have thanked him for giving me the impetus to look elsewhere.
Thank you! The support here has literally been a life and sanity saver.
How he reacted? He cried. He actually cried and apologized if he ever hurt my feelings
Are you kidding me? He cried? What a jerk. I wonder if the higher manager gave him a talk after your meeting with the two of them earlier in the week.
I suspect he cried over what he knew he was losing as far as an experienced person he could dominate and who actually took a lot of the work he did not understand off of him.
I suspect he cried over what he knew he was losing as far as an experienced person he could dominate and who actually took a lot of the work he did not understand off of him.
That was what my mother thought, He said he learned a lot from me and I responded that I liked to hire people who did at least one thing better than me and empower them to do it.
During my absence he did not keep the work cell phone on or answer any calls or texts from my families. I will inform his supervisor because there are many things that really need to be taken care of urgently to set up the program for next year for success. One is that my families count on me being available and supporting them,
How he reacted? He cried. He actually cried and apologized if he ever hurt my feelings
I am SOOOOOO happy to hear that! His loss. Too little too late.
YEA YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm actually happy that you were able to witness perhaps a moment of remorse on his part. No more whippin' gal for you ZG.
It's a NEW WORLD for you!:cool:
rosarugosa
7-12-18, 3:37pm
Wow! I wish we all could have been with you when you gave your notice, although I guess we were kinda there in spirit!
Will you have an exit interview? How gracious of you to care enough about what happens next after you're gone.
Will you have an exit interview? How gracious of you to care enough about what happens next after you're gone.
This is for the families and community that I have grown close to. I now live in the neighborhood so I know I will see them, but that is not why. They trust me, they deserve someone they can trust in this position. For my kids with challenging behavior, the students with special needs, for the quiet kids who are always well behaved and get overlooked, for that parent who needs someone who cares about them, for the grandmother who is taking on another 2 grandchildren from the 10 who have been taken away from her daughter. They matter, and my work mattered, It has been difficult to get to this point and had to have my sanity on the line.
I take no joy in him crying, none. In my Buddhist frame of mind I am reminded that no being wants to suffer. So I wish him well (from a distance)
Wow! We knew you could do it and this is certainly a cause for celebration. "He cried"? I suspect he knows he is now one step closer to being dismissed.
I take no joy in him crying, none. In my Buddhist frame of mind I am reminded that no being wants to suffer. So I wish him well (from a distance)
Classy, ZG.
I suspect he cried over what he knew he was losing as far as an experienced person he could dominate and who actually took a lot of the work he did not understand off of him.
This. Crocodile tears, 100%. Now he knows his shit is going to bite him on the butt, hard.
So happy for you that you are getting out of there, ZG. I hope you find you recover quickly once you are back in a healthier environment. When I escaped my pyscho boss I was seriously depressed/PTSD-ish from how awful it had been for me, but within two weeks at my new job I was excelling and my new colleagues were so appreciative and warm. It really helped me turn things around quickly.
Teacher Terry
7-12-18, 11:52pm
ZG, you are a better person than I because I would like him to suffer and learn something for the future. I hope he learns to treat people better. From working in human service I know what it feels like to have to leave families behind because we care so much but in the end you have to take care of yourself or you are no good to anyone. It always amazes me that places that should know better often treat their employees like crap.
Thanks all. I re-read the email detailing our conversation about everything I did not get done in the days leading up to my breakdown. It is pretty normal for the supervisors to write a list, document it, and then hold you accountable without any real discussion. If you ever work long hours to get it done then it is considered inefficiencies in your work. I am now trying to learn the new payroll system at 10pm which is kinda above my recovering brain. I just really want my staff to be paid, they have been so nice welcoming me back! I will work next week and then our camp is finished so I won't be leaving the staff at least. I met with my assistant from last year to tell him myself I was leaving, maybe he will get my job. I called my other long time staff and told her, and offered to be a reference if she chose to look for a new job.
I am not quite as altruistic as it seems, I have been aware that maybe the tears are kinda crap. I did tell him that neither one of us was going to be successful in our jobs working together. I am also processing a large amount of anger, anger that I am losing my families and that my career progress was eliminated in less than a year. Anger at the callous disregard for my basic mental health, in a field that should know a little bit better. But I have my kind moments too.
ApatheticNoMore
7-13-18, 2:54am
Thanks all. I re-read the email detailing our conversation about everything I did not get done in the days leading up to my breakdown.
break-*through*
(yea maybe only because it ended with you get out of there with another job, but ...)
Good point ANM, however i call it a break in general because i heard my mind go snap, just like a bone breaking. I want to honor how serious this was. I also like coming through
ZG, over the decades of my working life, I found that when I reached a roadblock such as you did, I was guided in a new direction which was better for me and my working life. Don't see the change as a loss but a sign post to better things.
None of us is completely in charge of and able to plan our life, we move through it adapting and learning and growing. What you have gone through is valuable and needed for the next stage of employment. Watch and see it all unfold, leave any regrets behind.
You have 8 years of history in this position without major problems so both you and the organization will gain from the change. Don't try to outline how, where or when.
I look back over my life and events that seemed so traumatic at the time were, ultimately, wonderful blessings.
I wasn't kidding when I say I would have thanked him; I would have been gracious while making it clear that his callous incompetence led directly to what will undoubtedly be a better position. And, IMO, crying does not belong in the workplace.
catherine
7-13-18, 12:17pm
I look back over my life and events that seemed so traumatic at the time were, ultimately, wonderful blessings.
Absolutely, which is why I think suicide by the young is so very tragic. Not to minimize the impact of depression and mental illness on likelihood to choose to take one's own life, but for those who feel a certain event makes life not worth living, if they could only get a peek at what's around the corner....
The "worst" things that have happened in my life have unequivocally turned out to be the best that could have happened to get me where I am today.
Oh i have been in tears 75% of our meetings, mostly misting up and then going to my car to cry. Sucks, sounds like new meds will help with that (2 days until we know if it works). However it is usually in a meeting where i am just berated into tears.
Crying over someone you have a horrible relationship quitting is not cool. I had SUCH good advice from my 2 Buddhist teachers! Inlove those women
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