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flowerseverywhere
11-25-18, 5:47pm
Today I mentioned to a friend that a bunch of us quilters were making quilts and collecting food for people in the Panhandle who lost their homes. Many are in tents.

He responded “if they had evacuated instead of thinking they knew more than the officials that told them to evacuate they would not be in this mess”. he was a physician as was his father, and when he married his wife had inherited a fully paid for house. I don’t think he has any idea what normal people go through. Even if you evacuated, your house is uninhabitable. Same for the wildfires and floods that occurred this fall. Many hard working tax paying Americans just do not have the resources to get back on their feet without some asistance after a disaster.

How did we become such an uncaring society? The news cycle is so fast those in need are quickly forgotten. Of course there were some foolish people, but for most their crime was living somewhere that was hit by a disaster. Some for generations.

I have noticed this attitude for many of many of the sexual assault victims, unarmed black men who have been shot, and so on. So much hate from so many.

jp1
11-25-18, 6:09pm
Rinald Reagan got the ball rolling with his fake welfare queen stealing government benefits from hard working white tax payers. It’s all been downhill since then.

Teacher Terry
11-25-18, 6:53pm
Thankfully I am not friends with anyone so uncaring. That’s terrible! In the fire here they had no warning. Even with warning when everything you own is gone it’s devastating.

Yppej
11-25-18, 7:02pm
It's a protective mechanism. If the victims did something wrong, and I don't make the same mistake, then nothing bad can happen to me. But of course it can.

JaneV2.0
11-25-18, 7:07pm
Dribble-down Calvinism. God is choosy about who gets anointed.
In other words, born on third base, thinks he's a hell of a slugger.

Tradd
11-25-18, 8:26pm
What I don't understand are the people who said they didn't evacuate because they had nowhere to go. What about the public shelters in schools and churches?

Teacher Terry
11-25-18, 8:35pm
Many won’t take pets and I wouldn’t leave mine behind. But we have resources to stay in motels and many don’t.

sweetana3
11-25-18, 8:36pm
People can freeze up in a disaster. It is a fairly common issue. What to do, where to go, what will happen to me, what do I take, will I make it? It all goes around and around. Some people are good in disasters and others need help.

I feel so sorry for those on the edge who might have lost a home, a vehicle and a job or prospect of finding another job in the area. How does someone with nothing pick up and go somewhere else and start all over? I was in the Alaskan earthquake but we still had a roof, a car, eventually a school, and my parents had jobs. We survived.

Teacher Terry
11-25-18, 8:39pm
Some friends of mine barely made it out of the California fire with the dogs but not the cats. Thankfully his job is in Chico so he at least has a job. They are in a motel. They are in shock.

JaneV2.0
11-25-18, 8:40pm
And what all this judgment has to do with making quilts and donating them is a mystery to me. People are human, and fallible. All of us. Even Judgy McJudgerson, MD.

If nothing else, a handmade quilt says "I'm sorry for your situation; here's something to provide comfort."

flowerseverywhere
11-25-18, 9:30pm
And what all this judgment has to do with making quilts and donating them is a mystery to me. People are human, and fallible. All of us. Even Judgy McJudgerson, MD.

If nothing else, a handmade quilt says "I'm sorry for your situation; here's something to provide comfort."

i can’t do anything about these natural disasters. I can’t change our border migrant crisis. I can’t change there are so many people working to their full capacity and cannot fully support themselves without food stamps. In other words, there are too many problems for us to overcome in the face of our elected “let them eat cake” officials on both sides of the aisle who spend money like water on things that will benefit them and their cronies.

But I can try to help some of the victims. Food to food banks, quilts to cold children, little things done by thousands of people around the country every day. Because one thing I do know is trains derail with dangerous cargo, tornadoes hit, rivers overflow, ice storms hit, and so on. Anyone can be a victim and I only hope if me or my loved ones need help some kind person extends a helping hand.

flowerseverywhere
11-25-18, 9:34pm
What I don't understand are the people who said they didn't evacuate because they had nowhere to go. What about the public shelters in schools and churches?
How many people were in this group? A few who happened to be interviewed by the media? I have to think the very large majority of people try to do the right thing for themselves and their family. A few did not want to leave pets and farm animals, and in this last hurricane they only had a short notice, and in the California fire some only had minutes to evacuate.

Teacher Terry
11-25-18, 11:55pm
We give of our time and money to help others. I won’t turn a blind eye. I hope if I ever needed it people would help me.

dmc
11-26-18, 7:35am
I offered two seats on my plane to several people when Irma was heading our way. I had no takers. They either thought that they could ride out the storm, or were worried about pets. Thankfully no one was hurt, but I wondered how some would have though afterword if someone was injured.

Next time I don’t think I will have a problem filling the plane. The ones I talked with after said they would not do it again.

LDAHL
11-26-18, 10:11am
Does being judgmental of judgmental people make you a judgmental person?

There are people too foolish to get out of the way of natural disasters when they have the chance. There are people who view dangerous parts of the world as tourism destinations. There are people who run with scissors. They deserve our pity more than our contempt. I see nothing wrong with helping them even when they provide examples of Darwinism in action.

Teacher Terry
11-26-18, 11:49am
D, nice of you to offer plane rides to people. I would have accepted if I could have brought my dogs. But probably I would have been long gone because I am a worry wart and don’t believe in riding out storms. L, you probably saw in the news the young missionary who went to a island where they are afraid of outsiders and they killed him. That’s plain stupid. Plus they have no immunity to disease so he could have killed them all. I totally don’t understand it when people travel to dangerous places.