Yppej
12-10-19, 9:14pm
I am getting worn down by my de facto supervisor and a family member, both suffering from OCD, who both make mountains out of molehills and try to micromanage me because controlling the minutaie of life is how they attempt to handle their anxiety. So I deal with this both at work and at home. There are other people in my social network who don't suffer from this condition, but the bulk of my time is with these two.
I can't snap at the "supervisor" because I need the job. She calls out unexpectedly, or leaves me to deal with time-consuming problems right before my shift ends so I have to stay late, or takes her break right before I leave for the day and overstays it, so I never know what time I will be out of there, making interviewing elsewhere unrealistic. Sometimes I request a day off, and she says she was already planning to take that day so I can't as one of us always has to be there even though she has not gotten it approved or put it on the calendar. And in my current situation I don't know that I could pull off the peppy interviewee role so many places want anyway.
"Supervisor" has been there 23 years and brought both the managers at my location into the company. They know how domineering she is - everyone does and they even joke about it - but both owe her and are also conflict avoidant people afraid of getting her riled up. They let her run the office. The company is stable and the benefits good, and she is the only annoying person there, but unfortunately she is the person I work with the most. Already one person in another department quit because of her just since I started in May.
So by the end of the day my patience is strained and I come home to someone who is hypersensitive to me, my moods, and any hint of negativity, which despite my best efforts he can set off. Today it was calling and texting me repeatedly with all sorts of instructions, because I was stopping at Dollar Tree on the way home, that got under my skin. Then I feel terrible. There are good days and bad days at home.
He has applied for SSI and been denied despite having several mental illnesses, and I cannot send an ill child out on his own. He also helps me out as he is able around the house but is not capable of holding down a traditional job. He is not open to family counseling though he sees someone individually. I went to NAMI support group once and it was not helpful. They suggested I go for individual counseling but I am often so drained at the end of the day the idea of going out in the cold and dark for appointments is dreadful.
If anyone has helpful advice or similar experiences I would like to hear them. I have had this on my mind for a while, but didn't want any negative nelly to chime in so I have held back on posting until I felt the coast was clear.
I can't snap at the "supervisor" because I need the job. She calls out unexpectedly, or leaves me to deal with time-consuming problems right before my shift ends so I have to stay late, or takes her break right before I leave for the day and overstays it, so I never know what time I will be out of there, making interviewing elsewhere unrealistic. Sometimes I request a day off, and she says she was already planning to take that day so I can't as one of us always has to be there even though she has not gotten it approved or put it on the calendar. And in my current situation I don't know that I could pull off the peppy interviewee role so many places want anyway.
"Supervisor" has been there 23 years and brought both the managers at my location into the company. They know how domineering she is - everyone does and they even joke about it - but both owe her and are also conflict avoidant people afraid of getting her riled up. They let her run the office. The company is stable and the benefits good, and she is the only annoying person there, but unfortunately she is the person I work with the most. Already one person in another department quit because of her just since I started in May.
So by the end of the day my patience is strained and I come home to someone who is hypersensitive to me, my moods, and any hint of negativity, which despite my best efforts he can set off. Today it was calling and texting me repeatedly with all sorts of instructions, because I was stopping at Dollar Tree on the way home, that got under my skin. Then I feel terrible. There are good days and bad days at home.
He has applied for SSI and been denied despite having several mental illnesses, and I cannot send an ill child out on his own. He also helps me out as he is able around the house but is not capable of holding down a traditional job. He is not open to family counseling though he sees someone individually. I went to NAMI support group once and it was not helpful. They suggested I go for individual counseling but I am often so drained at the end of the day the idea of going out in the cold and dark for appointments is dreadful.
If anyone has helpful advice or similar experiences I would like to hear them. I have had this on my mind for a while, but didn't want any negative nelly to chime in so I have held back on posting until I felt the coast was clear.