Where do young-adults go for help?

[Rainbow-Flame Mystic]

All of the good things my parents do
they ruin with their control-problems.

1) I have stage 2 liver-failure.
Both mom and dad make fun of me
when I try to eat healthy fruits, nuts
and vegetables. There's never a day
that goes by when I'm called down to
eat fatty foods for breakfast and dinner.

They only want to eat waffles, bacon,
steak, cheeseburgers, take-out pizza,
chinese-food etc; and yell at me when
I politely decline.

2) Dad has severe anger-problems plus
multiple-schlerosis and talks to everyone
in our family like we belong in jail. It got so
bad he would swerve on the freeway and
threaten to drive off the edge; or crash into
another car.

I'm at a loss on how to work with them;
and then, I have to deal with getting a
career going in this troubled-economy too?

I don't know if this is normal? please help!!!

[bae]

What face-to-face resources are available in your community?

[Rainbow-Flame Mystic]

Not many. I know there's a homeless shelter about 5 miles from here. And a few unemployment-offices. I don't know where else to go?

[bae]

Not many. I know there's a homeless shelter about 5 miles from here. And a few unemployment-offices. I don't know where else to go?

In my community, and many of the other nearby ones, there are "family resource centers" that basically serve as clearinghouses to point you at all the various programs and resources available in your community, and help you navigate them.

[sweetana3]

Often libraries will have the ability to help you locate other resources.

[Yppej]

Do you have health insurance?

[Simplemind]

It sounds like you are living in an emotionally abusive home and no, that isn't normal.

[ApatheticNoMore]

You could try this website and calling 211:
https://www.211la.org/

I have no idea if it's good, I got it from an old fridge magnet of all things. But worth a try to call 211.

You could try going to an adult children of alcoholics (and dysfunctional families) meeting. It's a 12 step group. It's free. Some "adult children of alcoholics" groups are only for children of alcoholics (and you don't mention alcohol or drug abuse in your family) but about half are also for children of dysfunctional families even if there isn't any substance abuse. And yes you definitely have a dysfunctional family. But dysfunctional families are not that uncommon unfortunately.

Adult Children of Alcoholics:
https://adultchildren.org/meeting-search/

[razz]

I am curious why you think the resources for young adults would be any different than would be serving assistance for anyone else.

Look online, ask friends for ideas, visit your church, local health unit, doctor's office, employment office, library as suggested above. You have to go to them and talk to them. This is true for all ages.

[iris lilies]

You have asked several questions in the same vein on this website and have received many fine answers.

What will you do tomorrow to get closer to the path you are seeking? Sitting in your room asking questions of strangers on the internet will not move you forward much. We do not have The Answer for you.

But hey—since you are good at math and you like serving people and solving kids’ math problems, do you know how desperate public schools are for math teachers? They simply cannot get enough, hereabout anyway (St. Louis, MO.)
Have you thought about that as a career ? Someone mentioned on your earlier thread a way to try that out.

Do you currently work full time? Do you have health insurance? Are you parents supportive of paying for your college costs? Do you have any college work under your belt?

you keep asking abpit sustainable work and living spaces. In the broad sense, there is no such thing. Self actualized, mentally healthy humans should expect to be flexible to deal with life changes.

[Gardnr]

You have asked several questions in the same vein on this website and have received many fine answers.

What will you do tomorrow to get closer to the path you are seeking? Sitting in your room asking questions of strangers on the internet will not move you forward much. We do not have The Answer for you.

In addition, you've had a lot of great responses to many of your questions. It is starting to feel like you want the easy button answer to life. there isn't one unless a pile of $ drops in your life and that is another pile of problems.

You need to set some goals and then plan a road map to get there.

Perhaps Mom and Dad are ready for the 30yo to move out? You're super young for liver failure? Hepatitis B or C? Not easy to get. Lifestyle changes necessary?

The answers are all yours.

[SteveinMN]

It doesn't help OP's case that every new thread drops a new fact of significant value (this time, liver failure).

[razz]

It doesn't help OP's case that every new thread drops a new fact of significant value (this time, liver failure).

Am I being nasty in asking if this is simply a troll?

[rosarugosa]

Am I being nasty in asking if this is simply a troll?

I've wondered the same.

[Teacher Terry]

Very few young people have liver failure although it’s possible as my best friend lost her 19 year old daughter to a rare liver disease.

[bae]

Am I being nasty in asking if this is simply a troll?

Nope.

[Tybee]

Well, if it is not, then I hope the OP gets some help. Catholic Charities, if you have that in your area, will help you with counselling, at affordable rate.

[Gardnr]

I have also begun to think this is a troll.

[bae]

I have also begun to think this is a troll.

I wonder if they have a dog?

[JaneV2.0]

I wonder if they have a dog?

Haha--I was wondering something along those lines.

[iris lilies]

Doesnt smell like a troll. My take is that the OP is genuinely lost. And that dog person you are talking about never pretended to be someone he/she wasn’t.

[ToomuchStuff]

I wonder if they have a dog?

I chuckled at that. However, we have had at least one other poster, who comes in, asking the same questions at various times, and this makes me wonder if this is from the same IP range/area.

[Alan]

I chuckled at that. However, we have had at least one other poster, who comes in, asking the same questions at various times, and this makes me wonder if this is from the same IP range/area.
Nope.

[truepeacenik]

My curiosity, and then where my suggestions would be, pivot on the parents “yelling” at her about food.

would I be correct in guessing the entire family is overweight to obese? (Based on the food comments from the OP)
if the family has food as such a touchstone, and will insult one who breaks with the “orthodoxy” of the family’s diet, then there are many more issues in play.

[kappydell]

time to leave. find resources so you do not have to stay there where they abuse you. yes it is hard, but it can be done. i doubt if your parents will be of any help, they sound like they would prefer you go on disability and then take your check. How sad, but not uncommon. You need to try for disability right away so gather your medical info and apply. It takes time, but at least you will be doing SOMETHING. Make your own meals if all else fails. But you really need to get your own place, even if you have to start out at a homeless shelter. Avail yourself of whatever resources you can find and get out.