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klunick

1-20-20, 1:35pm

Even though I always considered myself a minimalist because I don't need a lot of stuff around me, I kept things because I worried about going so far that my house would look sterile.

I cleared off a bunch of stuff from the fridge door once and my oldest made a comment that now it made the kitchen look like nobody lives here. I ended up putting back a few of the magnets to appease him.

My biggest struggle is losing the homey feeling and the house looking empty. What has been your biggest struggles?

Tybee

1-20-20, 1:36pm

I do not equate minimalism with simple living, so the only hard part for me personally is when people insist they are the same.

Gardnr

1-20-20, 1:41pm

I don't find my level of minimalism hard at all. Enough to enjoy and not stuff that annoys. Your kid may be right. Put some things back to warm it up.

klunick

1-20-20, 1:51pm

I don't find my level of minimalism hard at all. Enough to enjoy and not stuff that annoys. Your kid may be right. Put some things back to warm it up.

That is the thing. We do still have plenty of stuff. House in no way look bare. People have even commented on how nice our house is decorated and that is very homey. I literally took off photos of our boys that were up on the fridge for at least 10 years. Took off some of those restaurant magnets for places that we don't eat at or don't even exist any longer. Just stuff that accumulated and served no purpose. I guess he was just so used to it that it looked bare without it.

catherine

1-20-20, 1:52pm

I think minimalism is nothing more than "life edited." I was never a minimalist, but I felt myself swallowed up by stuff that had had its day--it no longer served its purpose but was occupying space in my garage, my closets, my basement, and my head.

So I did my Grand Purge last spring in order to move to a much smaller house, so I'm kind of a minimalist now, because I LOVE my pared down life. However, I'm not a decor minimalist, really. I love lots of wall art, and I still display the pottery my kids made me when they were 7 years old, and I DEFINITELY like to see personality in people's homes. I HATE watching HGTV these days because these cookie-cutter, trendy decor designers houses whitewash their clients' lives right out. Then, they have a token personal item--one framed picture, meant for the cameras to be able to get a teary-eyed response from the clients who are really just probably shedding tears of "I want my old lived-in house back!"

I'm not a document minimalist. I have a lot of old letters and pictures and I made each kid a scrapbook of their letters of commendation from soccer coaches and bosses and things. I love history, and it's hard to be a historian and a minimalist at the same time.

So I don't think you need to strip your house bare to be a minimalist. You just have to be sensitive to when your clutter meter tilts too far for your own personal values and comfort level.

JaneV2.0

1-20-20, 1:57pm

I do not equate minimalism with simple living, so the only hard part for me personally is when people insist they are the same.

Exactly.

Teacher Terry

1-20-20, 3:20pm

If a home is too sparse it feels uncomfortable to me. But most people have the opposite problem. I have found it more enjoyable to have less stuff and cleaning is certainly faster. I keep the things that have meaning.

SteveinMN

1-20-20, 3:58pm

I do not equate minimalism with simple living, so the only hard part for me personally is when people insist they are the same.
I third this. Well, sort of. Minimalism can be an aspect of living simply. But not all people who live simply are minimalists.

happystuff

1-20-20, 6:02pm

The hardest part for me - right now - is getting to the point where I am comfortable with the "stuff" around me. I don't live alone, so I have to deal with other people's "stuff" and that doesn't thrill me. But, I still have to deal with my own things, so who knows what lies ahead.

Rogar

1-20-20, 9:50pm

I don't know where I fall by definition, but when I was saving for my FI or early retirement I lived on a relatively stark budget. I never felt deprived at all, but did not fit in with the proverbial Jones lifestyle and had various forms of social ostracism and in the least was considered a little odd by many. I had some payback when I retired years earlier than most. I've been fortunate to have a few similar thinking friends.

And to be honest, I've had at least a little consolation by being a member of these forums. Much of my inspiration came from the book, Your Money or Your Life. I don't know if that philosophy fits best with minimalism or simple living, or both. Back in the day the book seemed like the roots of the forum some time ago. I think the focus has drifted or expanded since then and is not so much the same now.

razz

1-20-20, 10:17pm

Simple living is choosing how to spend one's energy and the results of one's efforts. I agree with the others above who don't equate minimalism with simple living. I have what I need for a simple but rich life and enjoy it.

Teacher Terry

1-20-20, 10:23pm

Happy, dealing with others junk is always a struggle. Our stuff are treasures but theirs not so much:))

happystuff

1-21-20, 8:45am

Happy, dealing with others junk is always a struggle. Our stuff are treasures but theirs not so much:))

LOL. True.

But, seriously, I do understand that they have their own "treasures". I just want them to realize THEY will have to deal with their treasures. We plan to seriously downsize within the next 2-5 years and there simply won't be room for the stuff and us. I'm using the time to scale back. It's going to be very interesting. LOL.

Teacher Terry

1-21-20, 12:36pm

We downsized to 1400 sq ft but unfortunately it came with a huge shed in the backyard. I have made my husband get rid of a bunch of stuff and have done a lot of cleaning out when he is out of town. He still has too much junk in our 1 car garage and his office. The shed is half empty.

kib

1-21-20, 4:56pm

LOL. True.

But, seriously, I do understand that they have their own "treasures". I just want them to realize THEY will have to deal with their treasures. We plan to seriously downsize within the next 2-5 years and there simply won't be room for the stuff and us. I'm using the time to scale back. It's going to be very interesting. LOL.
This is actually part of the reason I backed away from building a "dream home" - DH wanted a Smaller house, and he's already claimed 90% of the space in the one we live in now for his stuff. I would love a smaller home, but a smaller home with the same amount of things, treasures or not, would be a living hell. DH has moved five times in the last 15 years, and not once has he actually dug in and dealt with this pile o', it just gets gathered in armloads and dumped out again in the new space.

My biggest personal challenge with the joy of less is not uncommon, "it still works ok and I might need a backup. or three." Right now I'm staring at three old laptops, I'm pretty sure DH has three of his own, and there's a fresh new beginning in the form of an Asus Zenbook currently zooming its way toward me. It's like ... keeping it because it's still good makes me frugal or virtuous somehow. Think I'd better embrace a little sin and dump a couple!

Water&Air

1-21-20, 5:18pm

kib

1-21-20, 5:23pm

"The Difference Between Simplicity and Minimalism. ... Simplicity is the state or quality of being simple. Minimalism is any design or style in which the simplest and fewest elements are used to create the maximum effect. Simple living is a minimal, low-consumption way of living sometimes called minimalism".

Just Saying ... :cool:Source? Simple living is not always minimal or low-consumption. We have at least a few members here who are devoted to really complex lives, often with the addition of plenty o' stuff. I'd say a more universal word than "minimal" for 'simple living', at least as it's practiced here, would be "mindful". Considering carefully, and then choosing what creates that perfect "enough point".

rosarugosa

1-21-20, 6:53pm

Source? Simple living is not always minimal or low-consumption. We have at least a few members here who are devoted to really complex lives, often with the addition of plenty o' stuff. I'd say a more universal word than "minimal" for 'simple living', at least as it's practiced here, would be "mindful". Considering carefully, and then choosing what creates that perfect "enough point".

I think you nailed it Kib, at least for my version of simple living.