Sorry.

[catherine]

What is your stance on "sorry"?

My DD once pointed out that one of my DSs and I apologize too much. In business, I have learned to curtail that. I've learned that saying "thank you" is better than "I'm sorry." As in, "Thank you for pointing that out. I'll address it."

Just a moment ago, I almost said "sorry" to a client, but suppressed it. If you don't apologize, guilt is not documented--at least in business.

Where are you on the apologist spectrum? Does it make a difference if it's a personal v business relationship?

[Yppej]

You can sorry without apologizing. "I'm sorry you feel that way."

[razz]

You have helped me understand the issue better. "Thanks for the clarification which I needed to hear."

[GeorgeParker]

Sorry means "I regret this situation being the way it is." Sometimes it means you're aware that you did something wrong. Sometimes it means you want things to be different, but you don't have the ability to change them. Sometimes it's a way of saying a person or thing is of very low quality, like that sorry BIL your sister married.

Context is is everything. "I'm sorry, we can't do that." isn't the same as "I'm sorry we can't do that." and both are different from "I'm sorry I spilled chicken soup in your lap."

[Jane v2.0]

Women are notorious for apologizing for everything, including situations they had nothing to do with. It's as if they're apologizing for their very existence.

[Tybee]

I don't know that I have a hard and fast rule. I just used it to address a lie my brother told about me to a third party; I said, "I'm sorry if I left the impression that. . ." and then addressed the lie.

So yeah, I am not really apologizing for his lie, or for being here, or being a part of the situation--just attempting to point out my side of things. Not that it will do any good.

Real sorry to be related to him, that's true.

[rosarugosa]

Women are notorious for apologizing for everything, including situations they had nothing to do with. It's as if they're apologizing for their very existence.

We have a dear friend who does that. She is very sweet, but it actually gets tiresome.

On the other extreme, I've seen this sort of faux apology thing where someone says or posts something offensive, and when another party protests, says "I'm sorry that you feel offended."

[GeorgeParker]

On the other extreme, I've seen this sort of faux apology thing where someone says or posts something offensive, and when another party protests, says "I'm sorry that you feel offended."You mean like: "I'm sorry you were offended, but you really are an a$$hole." ? ;)

[rosarugosa]

You mean like: "I'm sorry you were offended, but you really are an a$$hole." ? ;)

Yes, or "I'm sorry you are such a hypersensitive little snowflake, but that's really on you."

[happystuff]

I think most of the time I say "I'm sorry" it is in the context GP wrote - "I regret this situation being the way it is." For example:

Friend - My husband is in the hospital.
Me - I'm so sorry. I hope it is nothing serious and he is home soon.

[Jane v2.0]

Yes, or "I'm sorry you are such a hypersensitive little snowflake, but that's really on you."


Perfect. That's pretty much what I was thinking.

[iris lilies]

Perfect. That's pretty much what I was thinking.
Oy. How many times I would like to say this…

[iris lilies]

I think most of the time I say "I'm sorry" it is in the context GP wrote - "I regret this situation being the way it is." For example:

Friend - My husband is in the hospital.
Me - I'm so sorry. I hope it is nothing serious and he is home soon.

There’s that, too. A general “ I am sorry for your situation” isnt out of place.