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Ultralight
2-14-22, 9:45pm
Would you date/marry someone who is transgender?

This came up as a topic within my local atheist crew.

What I noticed is that most everyone in the group (ages 40-80) felt that it was totally fine for someone else to date a transgender person, but they themselves wouldn't do.

One guy, about 70 or so, he said he predicted that in the future transgenderism will be much more normalized and that dating transgender folks will be commonplace and largely unquestioned.

Thoughts?
bae
2-14-22, 10:22pm
Sure.
Teacher Terry
2-15-22, 12:18am
No
rosarugosa
2-15-22, 5:38am
Long time married here, so this is purely theoretical, but I don't see why not. The transgender factor would not, in itself, be a disqualifier.
jp1
2-15-22, 7:26am
Absolutely would. Especially if they looked like Buck Angel.
happystuff
2-15-22, 9:22am
Long time married here, so this is purely theoretical, but I don't see why not. The transgender factor would not, in itself, be a disqualifier.

Same with me.
catherine
2-15-22, 10:15am
My DIL's brother is female-to-male trans and married a female and they just had a baby--they're very happy. I don't think it would be a disqualifier for me, but I have to admit that my Puritan DNA might make it a barrier, whether I'd want it to or not.
Ultralight
2-15-22, 11:20am
Sure.
May I ask why?
Ultralight
2-15-22, 11:22am
No

May I ask why not?
ToomuchStuff
2-15-22, 11:28am
There is a couple that comes into the restaurant, and I have no idea if transgender, or transvestite? The trans one, to give a description......
Take Arnold Schwartzeneger from Terminator, (extremely buff/fit) and put him in a 1950's pink poodle skirt.

Now, there are two other people I know that are Transgender. One is far from the change yet (basically came out as such in the last year), and the other, is somewhat in process, and is the musician friend of our late coworker. I've heard multiple comments that she is so pretty, and I expect there would be some surprise, when they found out the transition isn't complete.

I would think completeness of the transition would be a factor, as well are other goals (genetic kids or not), values etc. Me personally, I can't see it, however I know at least one friend, that when Playboy came out with "the first transgender playmate", (which turned out to be the second), he wanted the issue to see how good of job and thought she's hot.
lmerullo
2-15-22, 11:33am
What Rosa said!

I would like to think I would love a person, not a gender or sexual preference, etc.
iris lilies
2-15-22, 12:06pm
What Rosa said!

I would like to think I would love a person, not a gender or sexual preference, etc.

well, I dont think it would be in my best interest to marry a gay man in normal circumstances ( and yes, I know there are those marriages of convenience) but I guess I am just intolerant? Whatever.
bae
2-15-22, 2:23pm
May I ask why?

I suppose a better question might be "why not?"...

I don't particularly care about peoples' gender identities or expression. I care about the specific individual and their outlook on life, and ability to interact sanely with my own particular outlook.
Teacher Terry
2-15-22, 2:28pm
Too me it would be dating someone of the same gender and I am not into that. I don’t care what others do. At this time of my life I am never living with anyone again. Been there, done that times 3.
FishFinder
4-18-22, 3:27pm
How about kids? Thats a major part of life and family.
bae
4-18-22, 3:49pm
How about kids? Thats a major part of life and family.

I’m in my 50s. Been there, done that. No need for more kids :-)
happystuff
4-18-22, 3:54pm
What about kids? There are lots of kids in need of good, loving homes. No, adoption and/or fostering is not easy, but there are ways for those who really, really, really want kids and there are lots of kids who really, really, really want to be part of a loving family.
bae
4-18-22, 5:20pm
What about kids? There are lots of kids in need of good, loving homes. No, adoption and/or fostering is not easy, but there are ways for those who really, really, really want kids and there are lots of kids who really, really, really want to be part of a loving family.

Plus, many trans folks are capable of producing children.
catherine
4-18-22, 5:35pm
Plus, many trans folks are capable of producing children.

My DILs trans brother and his wife are celebrating their daughter's 1st birthday next weekend.
iris lilies
4-18-22, 6:13pm
My DILs trans brother and his wife are celebrating their daughter's 1st birthday next weekend.
Hence “birthing persons.”
bae
4-18-22, 6:15pm
Hence “birthing persons.”

We are trained to ask any patient the "is there any chance you may be pregnant?" question during an exam/treatment, and not to make assumptions.
catherine
4-18-22, 6:23pm
In the case of DIL's brother, his wife was pregnant and gave birth.
Alan
4-18-22, 7:05pm
I would not, I've never been attracted to men, even if they claim not to be.