Social Media and privacy of others

[catherine]

One of my daughters-in-law, a cybersecurity expert, has influenced my thinking about posting pictures on FB. When her two sons, my grandsons were born, she practically threatened me if I ever posted a picture of them on FB. She once threatened a priest who came to her mother's house and took pictures of the kids. While I think she's on the extreme side, over time, I've followed suit in many ways.

I am the only grandparent who doesn't have albums and albums of their grandkids on FB or Instagram. Here is why:


In general, I consider posting pictures, and especially tagging pictures, to be an invasion of privacy, no matter who they are of.
I get upset if people tag me without my permission, and I will immediate contact them and let them know that they need to ask my permission before tagging me, and then I untag myself.
When it comes to kids, posting their pictures is an especially egregious invasion of privacy because they have no say in the matter. I wonder if there will be lawsuits in the future by adult children whose parents have posted unflattering or compromising photos on social media.



So, I do have three other grandkids, and the only time I posted a picture of one of them is after I got my DIL's permission to post a specific picture. And I didn't tag it, or even identify the baby as my grandchild.

I thought of this topic this morning watching an HGTV show where throughout the show, the designer had a steady stream of comments about her daughter's potty training failures. I mean, really. Have a little respect for your daughter's privacy! This is national television!

I don't care about other people posting pictures of their families and friends--that's up to them. I just feel more comfortable protecting the privacy of others

For those of you on social media sites, do you have any boundaries with regard to what you post, or what others post about you? What do you think?

[flowerseverywhere]

My children also forbid details and pictures of their kids being put on social media. I agree with them.
I don't do facebook, Twitter and so on. If I want to talk to someone I do. I don't want to read ads, negativity, criticism, conspiracy theories and so on.

Social media does nothing to enhance my life or make me happier.in go for a walk, call a friend or write a note and mail it if you want to be in touch with someone.
Quiet, listening and playing music, attending groups or church with friends, enjoying nature, cooking a healthy meal, walking, bike riding, playing cards and pursuing hobbies are healthy for your body, mind and soul.

[herbgeek]

I rarely post pics of my sister's grandkids, especially now they are school age and not babies. I never tag them, and only refer to them as the "littles" in the family without explicitly saying who's kids they are. I rarely post pics of myself either. Most folks are good about getting permission. Even my SIL who lives for FB and takes pictures of Every Single Thing She Does is better after she posted a picture of me and the angle she had shot it went up my dress and she didn't realize that. She was mortified once I pointed it out, took it down and has been very good ever since asking if its ok to take my picture and then to post it.

[pinkytoe]

I have never posted photos of my grand-twins. In my mind, it just isn't my place to do so. The other grandparents post a lot of photos of them since they live nearby. I doubt they ever stop to think that it might also make us feel a great deal of sadness since we're so far away and missing out on their young lives...so there is that aspect of social media too. I have never asked DD how she feels about their postings but I guess its OK since it continues.

[iris lilies]

I have few boundaries. You people know this. That probably isn’t smart.

But there’s no way I’m going to denigrate a mom who is protecting her children.

Some of the influencers I snark-follow rely heavily on images of their children for their content. While they are fools and idiots outside of that, their use of their children’s images are the icing on the cake of WRONG. One wannabe-influencer used her vibrator to provide content in a genned-up photo where her children were playing with it. This B did anything to get clicks.

[iris lilies]

For all of the naysayers of “social media” here you are! On a social media forum!

I belong to Facebook for news of dog, neighborhood, and gardening groups. In other words, I greatly limit my “friends” list and actually turn off feeds from those who post political content.

I block my Facebook page to certain people.

I dip into Reddit subs where things get….heated. :) Reddit is the place where it all hangs out.

[ToomuchStuff]

I thought I remember the UK passing some law that dealt with parents posting content of minors online and that when the minors became adults, they could legally request its removal?
I've wondered about that after hearing an upper level LEO conversation about trying to find UC officers. An instance where a LEO was fired for talking online about an ongoing case, another instance where a LEO and their family were targeted by someone back from prison who wanted revenge.
That doesn't even cover the stalking issue or possible future career/job choices that could be interfered with.

I figure we will at some point see someone sue their parents over it.

[iris lilies]

I thought I remember the UK passing some law that dealt with parents posting content of minors online and that when the minors became adults, they could legally request its removal?
I've wondered about that after hearing an upper level LEO conversation about trying to find UC officers. An instance where a LEO was fired for talking online about an ongoing case, another instance where a LEO and their family were targeted by someone back from prison who wanted revenge.
That doesn't even cover the stalking issue or possible future career/job choices that could be interfered with.

I figure we will at some point see someone sue their parents over it.

decades ago, I hung out on the St. Louis forum “cop talk” that was all anonymous posts. But that is where I learned why
the police board member (I think he was President of the Board?) resigned rather abruptly, and soon after he was moved to a new position priest assignment in the Catholic church in another town.

The newspapers never said it but “cop Talk” made it clear that this guy was sexually harassing two gay police officers who were his drivers. He would specifically ask for these two young men as driver. Not cool, they just wanted to do their job.

[rosarugosa]

My cats don't seem to care if I post their pictures on social media.
I feel like FB and Instagram are tools, like so many things, that can be used for good or ill. I try to follow the guidelines of things one isn't supposed to discuss in mixed company, because my friends are certainly a very mixed group. I avoid sex, politics, and religion, and I post stuff mostly about home, garden, books, pottery, walks in the woods, stuff like that. I belong to a lot of really great groups about birding, cats, gardening, and pottery. I belong to a bunch of local town groups, and while the bickering and complaining can be pretty disheartening, it does help keep me up to date on what's going on in town.

[Tradd]

I share Corgi photos found elsewhere, diving stuff, and weird, interesting stuff. I entertain with crazy stories from work. Everyone enjoys those and some get educated on what it takes to get stuff into the country. FB is a politics free zone for me. If someone ignores that, even after a warning, I unfriend AND block them. I’ve had people try and continue arguments over Messenger. People have even posted political crap as a comment on something totally unrelated. No one has tried that again since. I get my political discussion elsewhere.

I have a couple of private groups that moved from now dead forums to FB. Then a bunch of diving groups.

[happystuff]

I pretty much follow the same line of thinking as catherine.

I'm not one for social media to begin with but my dh is. I've had to tell him to simply NOT post anything about me or the kids at all without permission. I don't give permission, but sometimes the kids do. Sorry, I just don't see why his 600+ "close and personal" (NOT!) friends need to know any personal details about me or my family.

I was on an adoption forum many, many years ago and this topic came up. This may seem a bit creepy, but I actually took ONE photo that someone posted online of their kids' first day of school. Within less than an hour and less than 4 google searches, I was able to find their school in their hometown. I private messaged the person explaining what I did and showed how - using the location information and having a picture of the kids - it would be easy to get physically close to them. The picture was removed within 15 minutes.

[catherine]

I pretty much follow the same line of thinking as catherine.

I'm not one for social media to begin with but my dh is. I've had to tell him to simply NOT post anything about me or the kids at all without permission. I don't give permission, but sometimes the kids do. Sorry, I just don't see why his 600+ "close and personal" (NOT!) friends need to know any personal details about me or my family.

I was on an adoption forum many, many years ago and this topic came up. This may seem a bit creepy, but I actually took ONE photo that someone posted online of their kids' first day of school. Within less than an hour and less than 4 google searches, I was able to find their school in their hometown. I private messaged the person explaining what I did and showed how - using the location information and having a picture of the kids - it would be easy to get physically close to them. The picture was removed within 15 minutes.

Yeah, I'm surprised at how easy it is to download pictures off of Facebook!! I think it's also easy now to download Instagram pics as well, but it used to be that you couldn't.

My daughter was in a movie when she was 6--she had a major supporting role. Years later, I was just googling her name, and her picture wound up on a site of young female actors. It wasn't improper or salacious so I didn't do anything about it, (if you're out there in the public as a performer, that's what you sign up for) BUT it did freak me out a little. You never know who is hosting sites like that.

Same thing applies to anyone who can peruse all the pictures on social media and, as you said, happy, learn a lot more about you than you would like.

[herbgeek]

The local news had a story last week of one woman finding her picture being used to advertise all sorts of things, and she had no idea. Her picture wound up being put in a stock photo collection and was being used without her permission or renumeration. And not necessarily for things she was ok with.

[iris lilies]

I watch videos on romance scamming, and so many men have their entire Facebook life lifted and used by Nigerian romance scammers to convince old white women their online boyfriend is a white guy. My favorite victim is the racist woman on Catfished who “doesn’t believe in mixed race relationships” and doesn’t like black men but yet she’s sending thousands of dollars to a black man in Lagos.

Some people deserve their scam.

[littlebittybobby]

Okay----Do NOT let your children out of your sight, unless they are at school, and have a cell phone with which tioo keep in constant contact. Also, instruct them NEVER to talk to strangers; only Yourself & of course policemen and school officials. Even then, they should get their badge number & a photo of the teacher. But yeah---you can NEVER be too careful. Just remember what happened to the Greenlease boy in 1953---a poor little rich kid whgo was abducted from the private parochial school & murdered with a GUN by a couple living in Sin. No bleeding heart liberal lawyers stood in the way of JUSTICE with endless appeals---Thank God they were both EXECUTED in Zurra w/gas only 81 days after the dastardly deed! Yup.. Hope that helps you some.517051715171

[littlebittybobby]

Okay----Sometimes---constantly---I go cruising through f-book, not really stalking, as such, but looking for kinda homely, kinda sweet-looking dog-faced wimmen to get to know. I might even send them a friend request, if I somehow think they are desparate enough to do so. But yeah---they hardly ever RSVP. Sometimes they blockk mee. Sometimes they don't blocck, but ignore. That's THEIR prollem, though. Yup. Butt, I still luv 'em all. Hope thatt helps you some. Like this one--Karen, up dere in Wah-SKon-sun. See photo. She hasn't blocked me, yet. I think that's a good sign.5172Also, a bonus photo of a ooooold Huttson. Thankk Mee.5173

[littlebittybobby]

Okay---here's another old gal. 5176

[JaneV2.0]

I watch videos on romance scamming, and so many men have their entire Facebook life lifted and used by Nigerian romance scammers to convince old white women their online boyfriend is a white guy. My favorite victim is the racist woman on Catfished who “doesn’t believe in mixed race relationships” and doesn’t like black men but yet she’s sending thousands of dollars to a black man in Lagos.

Some people deserve their scam.

This is a phenomenon that absolutely baffles me--unless the scam victim is experiencing early dementia.

I would think a savvy ten year old could spot these pathetic imposters.

[ToomuchStuff]

This is a phenomenon that absolutely baffles me--unless the scam victim is experiencing early dementia.

I would think a savvy ten year old could spot these pathetic imposters.


My parents had a neighbor, that was stupid enough to believe a pop up that said she has a virus and to call x number. They came out to her house and got her bank account information, were on the computer (installing who knows what), etc.
I don't doubt there are stupid people.

[JaneV2.0]

My parents had a neighbor, that was stupid enough to believe a pop up that said she has a virus and to call x number. They came out to her house and got her bank account information, were on the computer (installing who knows what), etc.
I don't doubt there are stupid people.

Good God.

[iris lilies]

This is a phenomenon that absolutely baffles me--unless the scam victim is experiencing early dementia.

I would think a savvy ten year old could spot these pathetic imposters.

I watch the weekly videos posted on YouTube by the group “Catfished.” This group delves into finding out about the scammer, and convincing the victim she is being scammed.

It is almost always a “she. “It is almost always a white, granny aged person. This week’s granny was having private text conversations with the actor Johnny Depp. “Johnny “told her he thought she was beautiful and interesting, and he wanted a romantic relationship outside of the Hollywood norm. He and his buddies needed money though of course.

This Canadian woman sent him $115,000.

I wish I had the confidence in my physical self that these old ladies have, old ladies who are my age.

[Portuguese John Here]

This forum was the first, and actually, it’s probably the only place I have my picture in, and I only posted it, because it’s a closed easy going community, where people also post their profile pictures, so, why not?

Oh, actually, I also have my picture on LinkedIn, but just person who belong to the network can see it, and those who belong I know them personally. I know I’m not special, and that no one gives a crap about my picture, or who I am, but if that’s true, why have it on social media, right?