Getting family members buried in old family plots

[Tybee]

Has anyone done this, and how did you go about it? I have parents and grandparents ashes that I would like to bury, and one option is sending the one set to their parents and the other to their own parents, as there are family plots on both sides. The grandparents could go to the great grandparents, which is in a Civil War vet part of the cemetery, so not sure how open they would be to adding them.

Has anyone done this? I emailed the Nebraska cemetery, and they never responded.

[Rogar]

I would be interested in any other responses since I have some similar questions. I asked the local funeral home director and have not gotten a for sure answer, but that might be another person to ask. His off the cuff remarks were that families bought large cemetery plots, and now with smaller families and cremations, that cemetery space is not a big issue. That's hardly a legal response. I have deeds to two older family plots that will never be used and the director said they have no value for those reasons. I have another deed of plots that probably will be used but is in a grandmother's name. I'm not sure where the cemetery requirements of ownership fall?

[Tybee]

Yes, one legal site I read said that you have to have the deed? I don't.
But with my mom's family I can talk to my cousins about it.

[early morning]

I think it really varies by state and cemetery. When my FIL, and later a BIL died, we had their cremains interred in the single plot where my MIL is buried. It was a simple process - talked to the cemetery groundskeeper who also runs the place, keeps the records, etc. Showed proof of death for both, obits that listed my MIL as pre-deceased/related to the parties being buried. They took care of the rest - the actual burial, setting the footers for their military service markers, etc. That was it. No one asked for a deed. We did both of them at the same time, and it was very inexpensive, also. The cemetery has a limit of three people per single plot - as long as at least 2 of them are cremated. I don't actually know who "owns" the cemetery, there's no church. I think perhaps it's governed by the town it's in. anyway, good luck, Tybee, I hope it turns out to be an easy task.

[Tybee]

Thank you! That does not sound too bad.

Today I am leaning towards starting over with a new plot for the four of them, maybe with space for me and my husband, all cremated.