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Tradd
9-7-11, 1:57pm
This situation is just weird.

Back in May a fellow, who very occasionally attends my church, offered to loan me his DSLR camera & accessories so I would have a better camera to photograph a friend's once in a lifetime event. He brought it up, not me. The event was in late May.

I have not seen this guy since the day he handed the camera bag over to me. He's a Facebook friend and I've attempted multiple times to set up a quick meeting with him after work (he lives close to where I work) to meet at Starbucks or whatever so I can give him camera back. He NEVER follows through with setting up a definite meeting, even though I follow up. Guy said nothing about it being a long-term loan. I've shot other events, but I've gone back to my little Canon point-and-shoot as it's much easier to handle and just stick in my purse.

I want the camera bag out of my place. Part of it is me and my decluttering and wanting a nice clean place with nothing that doesn't belong. Another is that I've got this expensive (Canon Rebel, with multiple lenses, etc. 8 yrs old, but still works very well) digital camera hanging around. I don't like holding onto things I've borrowed long after I'm done with them. Especially this pricey. What if something happened to it?

He's not at church a lot, which is none of my business, but I just wish he'd come ONCE so I could hand the camera over and be done with it.

I don't have his address, so I can't just drop it off. Guy seems to not be home much either.

Any suggestions? I'm at a loss.

peggy
9-7-11, 2:08pm
Does he have any family in the area you could give the camera to? Could be he has a more expensive camera now and this one isn't all that important to him.

CathyA
9-7-11, 2:33pm
Can you find him on Anywho.com and take it to him? I wonder why he doesn't seem interested in getting it back??

Gina
9-7-11, 2:46pm
Just keep writing to him and tell him you really do want to return it as soon as possible because you are uncomfortable with it, etc. Be persistent to the point of him taking it back just to get you out of his hair. Don't trust a middleman - you dont' want another possible complication in an already 'weird' situation - make sure you put it into his hands directly.

Anne Lee
9-7-11, 6:53pm
Would the church have his address for his giving records?

Zoebird
9-8-11, 9:15pm
i would suggest that you simply offer to bring it to his home or office, and then just choose a time and go with it. otherwise, you're likely to have it a long time. I had a camera for a year -- loaned from a friend -- and even though I saw him every week, he always "forgot" to take it with him!

Tradd
9-8-11, 10:19pm
Would the church have his address for his giving records?

No, because he is not a member and only attends sporadically. If we had his address, I would have it, as I maintain the parish directory.

Tradd
9-20-11, 1:36pm
After multiple private messages on Facebook, the guy finally got back to me, telling me he was planning on being at church this past Sunday. He actually did show up (I didn't know if he would or not), I gave him camera back and thanked him for the loan. Then when I got home, I unfriended and blocked him on FB. He'd been posting lots of unsavory things, but I was just waiting for him to take his camera back before I unfriended him.

Zoebird
9-20-11, 7:57pm
all is well that ends well.