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In We're pregnant. Oh oh, now I am showing my age. I can never get this. Seems like she is pregnant, she is the pregnant woman, she is looking pregnant and HE is standing by doing his best to make everything better.
When did it turn from she to WE. I have yet to see a pregnant man, but would love to.
Okay all those who disagree with me, have at it. and all those who see it my way, back me up here.
Just a fun rant.
I probably prefer "we're going to have a baby" over "we're pregnant" but I really don't care as long as the father is interested and involved.
loosechickens
10-3-11, 2:26pm
I'm old enough to kind of chuckle at that terminology, and think the "we're having a baby" is preferable to the guy saying "we're pregnant", unless he's stepping up for the morning sickness, stretch marks, labor, etc., hahahaha.
BUT....that said, I think that anything that helps the father to be to consider himself part of this whole operation and not just the fun that produced it, is a good thing.
When I had my kids, the father was relegated to the waiting room, you went through labor alone, and there were not even any prenatal classes to teach you what to expect, or if there were, I certainly didn't know about them.
Lots has changed, and mostly for the better, so if the price for that is a few things like "we're pregnant", while it might get a slight hidden smile from me, I applaud the mindset that produces it. Having the father both interested and involved is what will be good for both parents and the baby, and that, after all, is what is important.
But......I still chuckle. ;-)
Bastelmutti
10-3-11, 2:37pm
"I" was pregnant. "We" had babies. ;)
Probably the same 'we' as in "We fixed this holiday meal for the family", or "Sure, we don't mind if you bring extra kids and the yappy, snappy, smelly and stupid dog, it's no bother" or "Maybe we should dig a bed the entire length of the driveway and plant flowers". That we.
or We decorated the house, or We made this lovely mother in law gift. ha ha
Welcome to the day and age of political correctness. :) Can't exclude one of the sexes now....... Nevertheless, I do encourage this sort of thing (terminology), as I believe it does make for a happy and healthy balance in a relationship, not to mention, a proud father. (Terminology in our house as follows).
I'm pregnant.
We're having a baby.
We're having another baby.
Like LC, I also get a kick out of the whole "we" thing, especially considering that it wasn't my dear husband who carried our children to term, ate a regulated/controlled diet, or changed the umpteen thousands of dirty diapers, but I can live with "we".
i'm with you about the "we are having a baby" vs "she/i am pregnant." that's how i roll.
i also pointed out to people that *he* was not the only one making the baby. my ILs had a nick name for the baby -- which i'm fine with in principle -- but then i kept getting things labeled "Baby FIL'sNickName." YUCK. I did not make a baby with my FIL!!!!! LOL so then, they switched it to "BabyDH'sNickName!" HE ISN"T THE ONLY ONE WHO MADE THE BABY!
i had serious issues with being invisible my whole pregnancy, swear to god. got worse after the baby was born. i'm still bitter. lol
I'll be the contrarian here. I like it. And I'll take this opportunity to make an announcement (please, no flames :) ) that we are actually pregnant again and due in May.
So, as you know, I've been pregnant a lot. Actually, with the three miscarriages, eight times in the past eight years. The longer we've been at this the more I feel like it is we and not I. I bear the physical weight, but he has definitely pulled his weight in every other way. He was right there crying with me when we lost our babies. He was right there, anxiously waiting and hoping this one or another one would stick. He has been up umpteen nights, running to the store to get me things, taking me to the hospital to stop contractions, or because I think "this is it", only to find out that it isn't. He has taken on all of the houshold responsibilities when I've been on bed rest. He has cooked and done laundry while I napped for hours. He's built entire rooms, tiled floors and painted furniture while I rested. He's not an accessory to this process, he's an integral part of it.
Well best of luck Stella, whoever is actually pregnant. Hope all goes well.
I'll be the contrarian here. I like it. And I'll take this opportunity to make an announcement (please, no flames :) ) that we are actually pregnant again and due in May.
So, as you know, I've been pregnant a lot. Actually, with the three miscarriages, eight times in the past eight years. The longer we've been at this the more I feel like it is we and not I. I bear the physical weight, but he has definitely pulled his weight in every other way. He was right there crying with me when we lost our babies. He was right there, anxiously waiting and hoping this one or another one would stick. He has been up umpteen nights, running to the store to get me things, taking me to the hospital to stop contractions, or because I think "this is it", only to find out that it isn't. He has taken on all of the houshold responsibilities when I've been on bed rest. He has cooked and done laundry while I napped for hours. He's built entire rooms, tiled floors and painted furniture while I rested. He's not an accessory to this process, he's an integral part of it.
here's to me being preganant, you being pregnant, us being pregnant, them being pregnant, and someday, him being pregnant.
Best wishes, Stella!
I like 'we,' too. Being pregnant consumes a huge amount of physical, emotional, and mental energy. It's nice to feel like someone is sharing it with you.
Stella that's nice to hear. Hope all goes well. Guess that kid will travel in more states with you on vacation this year (while in your womb) than all of your other children have been in, combined. You'll have to take photos of the trip and remind him/her later that he was there, just not out in the world yet.
Holy smokes Stella! :) Congratulations!
Bastelmutti
10-5-11, 10:27am
Congrats, Stella!
We congratulate you both!
jennipurrr
10-5-11, 12:31pm
Congrats Stella!
Thanks guys! Iris, yes, this will be a well traveled baby before he or she is ever born. We are definitely going to take a lot of pictures! I think probably only the girls will actually remember these trips.
crunchycon
10-10-11, 7:00pm
Late to the party, but that's awesome news, Stella. Congrats!
Also late to the party, but congrats, Stella!
(Now I'll whisper that the "we're pregnant" thing drives me nuts! A friend of mine called to say 'we're pregnant'. I had to ask if she was (she's almost 60), but it was her son's wife. As a grandmother, that's one phrase I'll never use. LOL)
No offense to anyone who's okay with the phrase!
I personally think it is the woman's way of trying to spread the misery a little thinner. just sayin'
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mtnlaurel
10-12-11, 7:00am
Congrats Stella!!!
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