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domestic goddess
11-30-11, 11:26pm
Without going into a lot of personal stuff that doesn't just concern only me, I'd like to ask for your good wishes, prayers, or however you handle such things. We, as a family, will be facing some challenges in the next few months. I am confident that we will get through it, but I am a little less confident about my ability to remain patient and calm, which is apparently going to be my job. Not my strongest attributes, unfortunately. You'd think I'd be better prepared, since we all went through this just a few months ago, but sometimes I have a flat learning curve. It will be a time that will require some creativity, which is exciting, but I can see some emotional exhaustion that will also be a result. We are looking at some lean times ahead, just as it becomes cold, heating costs will soar, and I'm sure I will be wishing I still lived in the city, where your heat and other utilities can't be turned off during the winter months. That will still be less wearing than having to be the perpetual happy, unendingly supportive one. Boy, I am really whining, just like a little baby, but I do feel better, at least temporarily, for having gotten that off my chest. Sorry, I will do my best to be more upbeat when I am next able to come here.
loosechickens
12-1-11, 12:00am
just sending some cyberhugs your way, domestic goddess........hopefully, facing the difficulties as a family, rather than alone, will be a good thing, and that you'll all come through o.k.
Hugs from me too. I love the old adage, "one day at a time". Put it in your pocket, Domestic Goddess, and pull it out whenever you find yourself slipping or spinning. There is strength in it, but my confidence lies within you. :) You have always struck me as being a really strong and stable person, and IMV (in my view) that equates to having exactly what is needed to weather any storm. (Will be thinking of you).
dado potato
12-1-11, 12:21am
These are hard times... exhausting for you and millions of other folks, needless to say.
One nugget: if you have been elected the supportive Adult One... It's OK to play that role, but it may be a good idea to take a little break from it every day. Get out of there, out of the house, out of the radius of anyone who may be needful of your time and energy. Cultivate your own indomitable spirit.
gimmethesimplelife
12-1-11, 12:45am
These are hard times... exhausting for you and millions of other folks, needless to say.
One nugget: if you have been elected the supportive Adult One... It's OK to play that role, but it may be a good idea to take a little break from it every day. Get out of there, out of the house, out of the radius of anyone who may be needful of your time and energy. Cultivate your own indomitable spirit.Just had to say, great advice!
i have to agree. dado potato's thoughts were exactly where my mind went too!
I also think that -- if you have a partner (another adult) -- that you need to be able to have a vulnerability session. in our relationship, i'm generally the calm, steady, positive one. But like anyone, i get scared too -- and overwhelmed. And, i need to be able to talk things through -- out loud. Not for anyone to "fix" whatever hte problem is, but to -- for that moment anyway -- "be the strong one" so hat i can be weak and vulnerable for a bit.
Usually during this time, it's also that person's responsibility to take on a little extra work around the house or whatever my duties are so that I can recharge. I usually pick right back up within 12 to 24 hrs, so it's not that big of a deal for the person to do a few extra dishes while i sit around eating cookies for a minute or three. :)
Anyway, i wish you the greatest luck in this process, and that your family will come through this difficulty as quickly and easily as possible.
Hugs and prayers domestic goddess! dado's advice is great.
having to be the perpetual happy, unendingly supportive one. Boy, I am really whining, just like a little baby, but I do feel better, at least temporarily, for having gotten that off my chest. Sorry, I will do my best to be more upbeat when I am next able to come here.
Can I join you in whining about that for a moment? I'm exhausted from being the happy, unendingly supportive one. I will certainly keep you in prayer.
Gardenarian
12-1-11, 3:15pm
Feel free to whine all you want around here!
I hope the next few months progress smoothly as you move along your path to a life filled with beauty, comfort, peace, & abundance.
Blessed be.
"Cultivate your own indominatable spirit..." words of wisdom, dado potato. I know I can learn from that. And I'll second the idea of not being the strong one ALL of the time. Letting down into our own vulnerability makes it possible to return to helping others hold up. At least that's been the case in my experience.
Peace and light, domestic goddess, and a hug to you and to Float On, too. A little whine now and then can help release some of the pressure.
Lots of good advice about not having to be the emotional rock for everyone 24/7. Feel free to come back and vent as you need to - sometimes even just writing it down can take some of the pressure off.
Just remember than when the stable times return it will feel that much sweeter - keep your eye on that future. Best to you.
domestic goddess
12-1-11, 11:29pm
Thank you all very much. I was just at a low point yesterday. I get tired of having my life run by someone who can't manage his own life. At any rate, we got some news today that may be good; at least, it will be a little easier, but I'm not sure that will be the best thing in the long run. But it is what it is. I appreciate your good wishes and prayers so much, especially while I'm not feeling my strongest. This season is a favorite of mine, so there are distractions, and that is a good thing.
Float On, you will be in my prayers, too. I was never interested in cheerleading when I was younger, but I have been destined to assume that role as an adult. It is often tiresome, but I guess it is better than wallowing in self-pity. It is good to know I can come here and vent when I need to, and I will try not to abuse the privilege. Ya'll are the best!!
Wildflower
12-2-11, 4:32am
Best wishes, domestic goddess. I hope it all works out and you can return to peaceful living asap.
Gardenarian
12-2-11, 11:28am
"I was never interested in cheerleading when I was younger, but I have been destined to assume that role as an adult. It is often tiresome, but I guess it is better than wallowing in self-pity."
Yes, me too! It is hard to just summon up the pep when it doesn't come naturally, but it's true - someone has to do it.
Be gentle with yourself.
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