SiouzQ.
5-6-12, 10:14am
Each week I remain at my job gets harder and harder and I care less and less. "J" will be leaving on May 20th. The owner did hire a new person who may (?) turn into the manager/key holder. He's worked two days so far and is already wondering what the he** he got himself into. The 81 year old owner's treatment of the other new guy "G" (he's been there about six weeks now) has been terrible; the owner's modus operandi is to find a scapegoat to constantly pick on (in front of customers, no less). They got into an argument on Friday right on the sales floor in front of people because the owner pushed "G" too far about something so stupid as to be unbelievable and "G" responded in anger at the owner and they started arguing right next to me as I am trying to conduct business on the phone. It is SO embarrassing to work in this place! I told them to get away from me, as I was trying to speak with a customer about his repair (oh yeah, the whole repair situation is another long, long story I will never go into, but it is a big one).
Anyway, the day goes by and I have to go up to the office to give the owner a message and without really planning exactly what I was going to say, I ended up telling him in a calm but firm manner that I no longer liked or enjoyed working at his store and that his behavior toward other employees and customers embarrassed me and made me stressed out. I told him that I left work with headaches every day from the stress and that I was totally burned out. I think he was a little shocked at what I had to say and he promised he wouldn't be "like that" anymore and what could he do to make it better? I told him that I would like some time off at the end of June and he said that could be arranged (I'm not sure I actually believe him as I think he is just trying to placate me) but we have to let the new guy get trained and comfortable around the place, which I agreed to.
I have already decided that I am going on my road trip to New Mexico from June 18 - July 5th. This is non-negotiable for me and if he doesn't like it or tries to wheedle me along, I will not waver. At least I laid the groundwork for why I am displeased with things the way they are. If it results in me being fired, so be it...I can't live this way any longer and I am so tired of wasting time and getting more and more stressed out. I have a constant headache now and my life outside of work is and has been suffering. Life is too short to be stuck in this miserable place!
So when I do this trip and return to work on July 5 (provided I am not fired at this point), I will be in a much clearer state of mind to really assess the situation and decide how I am going to proceed.
I guess there just comes a point when you know you HAVE to take definitive action, even when you don't know what the outcome will be. I already feel better knowing I spoke my truth and set limits on what I will accept. It will be interesting to see how it all plays out, but I am getting more and more detached from the outcome because it is not my responsibility anymore. My only responsibility at this point is to go in when I am supposed to be there and try to sell stuff.
PS: I did tell the owner that if I heard him treating my co-worker's badly that I was going to "get in his face" and shake my finger at him (at this point we had turned it into a joke and ended the discussion on a fairly positive note). And I will call him out on any bad behavior on his part because I just can't stand it anymore.
Anyway, the day goes by and I have to go up to the office to give the owner a message and without really planning exactly what I was going to say, I ended up telling him in a calm but firm manner that I no longer liked or enjoyed working at his store and that his behavior toward other employees and customers embarrassed me and made me stressed out. I told him that I left work with headaches every day from the stress and that I was totally burned out. I think he was a little shocked at what I had to say and he promised he wouldn't be "like that" anymore and what could he do to make it better? I told him that I would like some time off at the end of June and he said that could be arranged (I'm not sure I actually believe him as I think he is just trying to placate me) but we have to let the new guy get trained and comfortable around the place, which I agreed to.
I have already decided that I am going on my road trip to New Mexico from June 18 - July 5th. This is non-negotiable for me and if he doesn't like it or tries to wheedle me along, I will not waver. At least I laid the groundwork for why I am displeased with things the way they are. If it results in me being fired, so be it...I can't live this way any longer and I am so tired of wasting time and getting more and more stressed out. I have a constant headache now and my life outside of work is and has been suffering. Life is too short to be stuck in this miserable place!
So when I do this trip and return to work on July 5 (provided I am not fired at this point), I will be in a much clearer state of mind to really assess the situation and decide how I am going to proceed.
I guess there just comes a point when you know you HAVE to take definitive action, even when you don't know what the outcome will be. I already feel better knowing I spoke my truth and set limits on what I will accept. It will be interesting to see how it all plays out, but I am getting more and more detached from the outcome because it is not my responsibility anymore. My only responsibility at this point is to go in when I am supposed to be there and try to sell stuff.
PS: I did tell the owner that if I heard him treating my co-worker's badly that I was going to "get in his face" and shake my finger at him (at this point we had turned it into a joke and ended the discussion on a fairly positive note). And I will call him out on any bad behavior on his part because I just can't stand it anymore.