A Death in the Family

[domestic goddess]

I came home last week to see my mom, who has been ill. She died Thursday evening, about a half hour after my brother and I left the nursing home. I am sad that she is gone from our daily lives, but happy that she is at peace and the suffering is over. She is in the care of the Lord now, and everything is all right. Arrangements have been made and now that the "busyness" following a death is over, we can get some rest.
I am very grateful to the staff of the nursing home, who took excellent care of my mom, and to the hospice nurses and social worker, who answered my many questions. I also wish to thank my SL friends for the support given.
There are still odds and ends to finish up. I am grateful for the time we had with my mom. Wish it could have been longer, but I guess she had finished her work here, and it was time for her to rest. She will always be with us.

[Mrs-M]

I'm sorry for your loss, Domestic Goddess. Be good to yourself and get some rest. You are in my prayers.

[CathyA]

(((((hugs)))))

[domestic goddess]

Thanks. Her five cats are really missing their mommy... and driving the rest of us crazy!

[peggy]

I am so sorry. Will keep you and your family in my thoughts.

[Sad Eyed Lady]

I am sorry for your loss domestic goddess. I lost my own mother 9 1/2 years ago, and after this amount of time it is better but sometimes that missing still comes, so be prepared that the emotional level won't run smooth. It was an up and down ride for me. At times, weeks after her death, I would think "wow, I am really doing better.", then in a few more days or weeks, it would hit me all over again. But, like you, knowing she isn't suffering and in pain any longer is wonderful. I was with her at the end, just the two of us in her hospital room and I thought of how 50 years ago, (at the time of her passing), there was just the two of us as she labored to bring me into the world. I felt as if this time I was helping birth her into her new life. That was somewhat comforting.

[Simpler at Fifty]

I am sorry for your loss DG but you are right, 'everything is all right'. She waited for you to come and see her and knew it was okay to go. I hope the rest you seek comes soon.

[SteveinMN]

My sympathies, DG....

[JaneV2.0]

I'm so glad you got there in time to say goodbye, and I'm glad you're there for her beloved cats, as well.

[catherine]

So glad you and your brother were able to see her right before she passed on. My sincere sympathies.

[Lainey]

It is true that the wonderful memories will carry you in the harder emotional times. Best to you and your brother.

[rosarugosa]

DG: So sorry for your loss!

[Tussiemussies]

So sorry for your loss Domestic Goddess. I will keep you in my prayers for awhile...

[Tradd]

DG, I'm very sorry to hear that. Poor kitties. You and your family are in my thoughts.

[bunnys]

Sorry to hear of your loss.

I'm sure she appreciates your taking care of her cats.

[iris lily]

DG, I am sorry to hear about your mother. It's a blessing that you were able to see her on her last day on earth.

[Zoebird]

It sounds like she did find peace at the end and was able to let go. I'm sure seeing both of her children was really important to her. No doubt she loved you greatly. :)

Many blessings to you on this leg of your journey. Don't be afraid to come here and vent, share, or whatever you need, ok? :)

[chrisgermany]

My sincere condolences. The loss of a parent is a deep gap in life.

[Selah]

I'm so sorry for your loss, domestic goddess. It sounds like your mother had a "good" death, in that she got to see her loved ones and had great care from the nurses and staff. Get some rest, and good luck with the kitties. Hugs and prayers coming your way.

[cjones]

What a beautiful comment, thank you Sad Eyed Lady.

[cjones]

My sincere condolences to you and your family, DG. The loss of a mother is like nothing else. It does sound like a good death, with her children near. My mother died in 2010 and I still miss her terribly, but I know she lived a good long life with suffering at the end but also with great joy and love. Blessings.

[margene]

hugs to you Domestic Goddess.

[kitten]

My thoughts are with you.

[leslieann]

It is lovely that you got to spend time with her before she died. It sounds like a peaceful death. Best to you and your family (and the kitties).

[Stella]

I am so sorry for your loss! You and your family are in my prayers.

[jennipurrr]

So sorry to hear about the loss of your mom.

[Merski]

My thoughts are with you.