How are you Gregg?

[peggy]

I was just thinking of you today and wondered how you were doing? How is your young friend holding up? Such a horrible, horrible thing!

[Gregg]

Thanks for your thoughts peggy, I really do appreciate it. Everyone is doing as well as can be expected. I'm very glad to be able to say there is no large amount of hatred aimed at the husband. People are, of course, angry with him for what he did, but almost without fail the recognize that something extraordinary had to have happened for such a good man to snap the way he did. We have some clues and everyone has their hypothesis, but we will probably never know the whole truth. The kids decided to do a combined service which I feel is exactly appropriate. They asked if I would give the eulogy for both (at once) so I'm working on that. It's not a task I really wanted to take on, but also not a privilege you decline.

Their youngest daughter is continuing with her counseling and is doing pretty well all things considered. Sunday will be good for all the family. The service will be a real celebration of life, not a funeral in the traditional sense. I call my speech a eulogy for lack of a better term, but its going to be very upbeat. I worry most about the family after all that is over and the quiet reveals just how big a hole there is in life. It's going to be difficult, but they will get through it.

Thanks again peggy for your concern and compassion and thank you everyone who offered such heartfelt advice and insight in the other thread. Don't drop your guard peggy, I'll be back in PP soon! We have a lot to talk about! :0!

[peggy]

Yes we do Gregg! Life does indeed go on and so much happens everyday!
You take care. I know you will do those two lives justice in your eulogy. As horrible as the circumstance of their deaths were, their lives are more than that final moment.

[mtnlaurel]

Hugs and healing during this hard time to you and your deceased friends' children & family.

[gail_d]

Keeping you in my thoughts during this very trying time. Thank you for being there for the survivors, and for your willingness to offer the eulogy.

[puglogic]

Blessings to you Gregg. May the writing and the speaking both come easily. And so true that their lives are much, much more than just the final moments.

[Charity]

Gregg, I'm so sorry for your loss. I'll be praying for you and your family as much as the children of your friends. There is going to be a big hole in your life as well. You're a true friend to want to do a eulogy that dwells on all that was good about your friends. Good luck and God's blessing to you on Sunday.

[loosechickens]

Gregg....coming late to the table here, as I haven't visited the forums for some weeks. So sorry to hear about your friends, and send warm hopes for you and for their children and the hard times of trying to deal with this tragedy. I'm glad their children have you and your wife as friends and support.

[Gregg]

Thank you all. Everything went as well as could be expected. Some people voiced their distaste about having a combined service, but supporters out numbered them by a factor of 100. That helped. The words for the eulogy actually came pretty easily, someone was watching over me. Actually reading it was a different matter, but we all got through it. It was a time filled with much love and much support for the family and by the end we were all able to start sharing happy memoried of the wonderful people we lost. Healing will be a long process, but its off to a good start. Thank you all for your warm thoughts and support. It really helped.

[Float On]

Sounds like you had a lovely service for a difficult situation but that most of you agreed that that 'situation' was less than 1% of their life story.