staff not improving

[Zoe Girl]

Feeling a little cranky, even after my meditation weekend >:(.

I took a half day on Friday. Friday is our extra 30 minutes of planning time. Apparently the staff came and today I asked about what was planned. The lead said with an attitude that they didn't have any plans. I pointed out the facts that even if they didn't plan on Friday they should have had 2 weeks of plans from the week before so this week should have a plan. I heard everything, the younger kids do not need homework time, we do not have all the equipment for the gym games and the old book of gym games is crappy, 30 minutes isn't enough, etc. I have done her job and have supervised at least 10 schools but that seems to make no impact. I pretty much said I could do somethi ng curriculum this afternoon but I needed the other things planned, and the week. Then I used my wonderful silent practice to walk away. I know with my kids when I am silent it makes a big impact. I don't stomp or fume but I walk away and don't smile.

Anyway they came to me and had worked out coming in early today and doing the planning. I guess that is good, I don't feel like having the touchy feely kind of conversation where I hear her side so I need to spend some time calming down before we have our serious talk. Basically I paid them on Friday to sit around and talk about what is wrong and why they can't plan. Thank you for letting me vent.

[Jilly]

You are welcome!

And, today you win (or am burdened :)) with a bonus thought : Nice on the quiet walk-away, one of my favorite and calming practices.

[Tradd]

You're welcome! I'm beginning to feel some frustration with some of the folks in my department, as well. Such simple things, yet some folks don't get it.

[rodeosweetheart]

What is the difference between the silent practice and the silent treatment?

[Zoe Girl]

Yes the simple things we just need to keep working with. If they don't have it down then it still needs to be worked on. I am getting over my 'should', as in staff should be able to do X. If they are not there are a couple options but it means I am not done with that either

Silent practice, hmm, I see that as still being engaged, open, willing to work with others, non-aggressive posture and tone. I think there was some sign of that because after I walked away they came to me in a few minutes to talk about their plan to plan. I just worked with them and approved the planning time.

Silent treatment, punishing, closed off communication, don't feel comfortable continuing to work on the issue.

[leslieann]

Nice distinction, Zoe Girl. Silent treatment = fuming. Silent practice is allowing people to take action by themselves once you have identified the parameters. Treating them like adults who made an error and who are willing and able to rectify. sounds like it worked well all around.

[Valley]

Great job in how you handled this Zoe Girl...now hopefully they'll follow through on their part!

[rodeosweetheart]

Thanks, Zoe, I think I get the distinction now!

[Jilly]

Silent treatment is revengeful. Silent walk-away / practice is self-supportive.

[Wildflower]

You handled it well, Zoe Girl.