I Got Dem Ol' Kozmic Blues Again Mama

[Sad Eyed Lady]

To quote Janis Joplin. Anyway, it has been a bad day; nothing specific just dem ol' kozmic blues again mama. And speaking of which, there I was standing in an antique/junk store today and out of the blue I thought "I miss my mother". My mother passed away 10 years ago this month, I am 61 years old and we never had a close close mother/daughter relationship, but still I was just over whelmed with missing her today. Just had to share with someone and you guys got lucky. Thanks for listening. :(

[MamaM]

(((HUGS))))

[treehugger]

I'm glad you shared with us. Sometimes simply sharing is all it takes to make me feel better. I hope that's the case for you. If not, please do something nice for yourself and feel better soon.

Kara

[Jilly]

Yay you for honoring your part of your relationship with your mother.

[Wildflower]

I so understand. My Mother died back in 2006. We had a difficult relationship, but there was love there too. She was an alcoholic, which made everything hard....

When she passed away I never really let myself grieve. It suddenly hit me last week out of the blue how much I miss her....been sad and down ever since.

[Mrs-M]

Sorry to hear your feeling blue, SEL.

Remembering loved ones is never easy, but a little something I found that helps it along better, is remembering the fun things, for it is the fun things that enrich our lives and help shape who, and what we are. It's the healthy things that help us grow, thrive, and move towards a more balanced existence.

You will carry your moms spirit with you forever.

[razz]

These moments do catch one by surprise, don't they, SEL? When this happens with either of my parents or a friend who are no longer with me, I send them a hug in my thoughts and remember something that I loved about them.

With my mother who passed on in 1998, it is New Years Eve. She would always wait for my call just after 12am to wish her Happy New Year. I would leave whatever event I was at to make the call. I still find it hard to go to bed without making that call on that evening. So, I mentally still wish her Happy New Year and send a hug.

[pinkytoe]

Happens to me too. I have started imagining it from my 30 yo dd's point of view too - what will she remember/miss about me when I'm gone. I don't want to leave behind too many bad thoughts.

[leslieann]

And it happens to me, too.......last week was my father's birthday. He would have been eighty-five but he died at 71, in 1999. (Hope my arithmetic is right). But I was just chugging along in the car, running an errand and thinking about his birthday and was suddenly overwhelmed with tears and missing him. And we were not especially close in life, which maybe actually makes it MORE poignant. I agree that it is good to just go with that feeling, honor it and the relationship that was and the one that was not (the one maybe we wished for), just acknowledging those waves of feeling as part of live and living.

Good to know that there are lots of us out there....

[Rogar]

It must be something in the stars. I just read a book that reminded me a lot of my folks, who I miss a lot. Since I'm a guy, I won't say that I got bleary eyed even if I did. My mother passed on ten years ago also after prolonged disabilities from a stroke that seemed totally unfair. Last night I got out my family photos and looked back at the times when the folks were happy and smiling or laughing. It sort of helped to see some of the good times.

[Gregg]

I think it's universal. My Dad's birthday was a couple weeks ago. He died in 2005 and sometimes I still reach for the phone to give him a call and then feel sad when I realize what I'm doing. Sorry to hear about your down day SEL. If its any consolation at all we need our whole range of emotions if for no other reason but to make the good days stand out. Take a little time to pamper yourself, you deserve it.

[libby]

I am feeling the same way. It is 13 years ago on Feb 3 that my mom left this earth. I miss her so much....((hugs))

[frugalone]

I miss my paternal grandmother just about every day of my life. She died in 1983. There are so many things I wish I could share with her. For e.g., she never met my husband (we didn't meet till after she died).

[Gardenarian]

We're here for you! I hope today is a little brighter.